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CRATUS
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How can I learn to be less trusting of others?
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Blue_Horizon
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We all start out with imperfections and experience, if we are humble and open, that leads us to wisdom and virtuous behaviour.
Virtue is a “second nature” that sort of “seals up the cracks” in our imperfect personalities that each of us have in our different ways.
Trust is a good thing but it is wise to make sure others we don’t know ell earn it and so it is given gradually.
If you don’t follow this common sense procedure it is possibly because you are still quite dependent on the approval or love of others or insecure.
Insecurity is usually something we grow out of as we get older but it can be deep seated and take a life-time to come to grips with if it is due to sensitive genes and/or some degree of childhood neglect or poor parental relationship.
Well nurturing a few very good long term trusting relationships helps a lot but I guess the problem is you do not have such a support structure in place.
It is good to understand one’s own personal weaknesses early in life.
I suppose it doesn’t make it any easier but at least you are in a position to direct your efforts and learn to counter-act your possibly excessive relational neediness if that is the cause.
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lifesoldier
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IDK, but I know that it isn’t sinful. Sin is offense to the Lord and thus it should not even be compared with earthly imperfections we all have…
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pacomius
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Not every act or case of ignorance is culpable. only culpable ignorance is a sin. but my major interest is that you want to be less trusting.
It is never the fault of who trusted and got fooled at the end; rather it is the fault of he who takes advantage of the trust of others.
nevertheless learning to be independent and do things yourself can help you reduce the need to over - rely on others.
It is never the fault of who trusted and got fooled at the end; rather it is the fault of he who takes advantage of the trust of others.
nevertheless learning to be independent and do things yourself can help you reduce the need to over - rely on others.
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Exiled_Child
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ynotzap
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Jesus advises to be “Wise as serpents and simple as doves” Naivety and idealism are characteristics of youth, and innocence. Such a person is vulnerable to disillusionment, and disappointment. With knowledge of fallen human nature one can exercise a certain amount of discernment and wisdom, but it takes practice and some failure. I often stated that one has to be a bit paranoid in this world to avoid evil or being taken advantage of, after all what are locks and keys for. Dealing with humanity one has to be grounded in understanding the failures of humanity and use this knowledge wisely, still I think to approach a person with the attitude that he is good and can be trusted to a certain extent is a good quality in one’s personality even if sometimes he gets burned.
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