Is it a sin to fall in love for someone who is already in a relationship?

[12345678]

People in relationships aren’t married to each other. Strictly speaking, they are not off limits. You are correct in not wanting to destabilize and bring chaos into their existing relationships for no good reason, but also, ultimately, those folks aren’t married to each other and are still free to make different choices.

So, I’d say, respect the relationship they already have together, whatever they have built and invested in, or their happiness together, don’t jeopardize it lightly, but at the same time don’t regard them the same as married, which they are not.

This! Be respectful, but this is very different from him being married. So different! You have to put on all the brakes for a married man. A guy that is just dating is different. I know many great couples that met while one or both already had a boyfriend or girlfriend. You can be friends, and just be prudent when it comes to anything else. Things could change for him and his girlfriend, he could realize they wouldn’t make a good couple for marriage. There is nothing wrong with getting to know him and spending time with him at work. This is very different from putting yourself or him in the situation where he would be dishonest to his girlfriend, or “cheat” on her rather than deciding he wants to part ways to get to know other people.

 

[Luckyclovette]

I do not want to give false hope nor do I want to encourage you to do anything.

My fiance now, I met at work.

He was in a relationship with someone and had been for 4 years when I met him. I had a crush on him. He ended up breaking up with her ( not for me, but due to whatever was not working in that relationship).

BUT, it was WORK. So, at work, you should be expected to be professional. No one’s feelings should be hurt in that. For all he knows, your boss made a comment to you to stop flirting with your coworkers.

If he is truly developing strong feelings for you, he might decide his current relationship is not the right fit for the rest of his life. Again, I don’t want to give false hope.

Keep work related to work. This should not hurt anyone’s feelings. Do not do anything that might cause a breakup between him and his girlfriend, as you would not want the same done unto you. Do not say or do anything that you would not do/say if his girlfriend was standing right there.

The “ball is in his court” so to say. Be respectful of the relationship he has. If his feelings are hurt by you being professional and having boundaries, he needs to figure how his own feelings. Only he can do this for himself.

 

[on_the_hill]

As Catholics, we don’t believe in “falling” for someone.