Is It A Sin To Love Jesus Romantically?

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Im a female in my early 20’s and I’m very lonely and feel deprived of love on this earth, and all I’ve been thinking about lately is how happy I am that Jesus and God love me. I love and adore Jesus so much. Knowing that he is so pure and full of love. Today I thought about this and wondered if it would be wrong for me to think of Jesus as… a boyfriend? It sounds weird saying that. But I want to know if it’s okay to love him romantically. He is my friend after all, and my heart jumps for joy when I think of him.
 
Ok, this is a really stupid question but must they be virgins? Or, is this open to widows or women that have made mistakes? Thanks for any answers!
 
There is a branch of mysticism that takes that form, but careful studying should be done first.
 
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Thank you! I love the catholic view on virginity with regard to rape, by the way. For all the horrors of having been raped, to know that your faith still considers one a virgin is exceptionally kind and charitable.
 
I can’t give the Catholic answer but there are many non sexual reasons that a hymen can be torn. In general, virginity is linked with the sexual act, not necessarily with just a torn hymen.
 
While Consecrated Virgins must be virgins, vowed religious (sisters and nuns) don’t have to be–although some individual communities may have that requirement. Many foundresses, after all, were widows. In the US, at least 4 congregations were founded by women who were divorced, and 2 by women who were unwed mothers. So you would need to check with a particular community as to what their policy is–canon law does not require virginity in a sister.

Meanwhile, not all communities have women wear wedding attire when they enter the novitiate or take vows. In fact, most these days do not, although more traditional communities do. Similarly, some communities understand their members to be “brides of Christ,” but not all; many sisters I know do not understand their relationship with Jesus in this way. So, as with all things in religious life, people need to find the charism and spirituality that works for them. It is one of the gifts of the Church that there are different paths available, all of them valuable. As it says in the Gospel of John, in Yahweh’s mansion there are many rooms!
 
“Is it a sin to love Jesus romantically?”

He’s the husband. The Church is the bride. You’re part of the Church. Therefore…I don’t see any malice with the kind of love you have for Jesus. However, I would describe the relationship as healthy, rather than romantic.

If you would study the many lives of our saints (males and females, alike) many of them even went beyond as to putting their lives at stake for GOD. Are you willing to do the same?
 
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I would point out that young women treating Jesus as a sort of “boyfriend” (non-sexually, one would presume and hope) has been a phenomenon for a long time, to the point where there is “Jesus is my Boyfriend” merch available, a genre of Christian music called “Jesus is my Boyfriend” songs, and many videos and art works of a “romantic Jesus”.

We each have to define our own relationship with Jesus and some women are more romantic than others. Some of the great female saints definitely had an intense relationship with Jesus based on their own writings. However, it’s important to note that the relationship stemmed from the saints in question striving to be very holy and not just from romantic fantasy on their part because they didn’t have a human man to date.

I would suggest maybe you think of Jesus as your very close platonic friend who is always there for you. A BFF to whom you can tell all your troubles. Love for Jesus is not the same as the romantic love you would have for a human guy because with a human guy there’s almost certainly going to be a sexual aspect. Think of love for Jesus as something beyond that.
 
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There is certainly consecration for woman who are not virgins. Many Secular Institutes offer this. It differs largely by the particular Institute so I cannot give you specifics but if you ask you diocese they should have an idea, or google in your area or country. Most commonly you are required to be a single or a widow. In my order this is a the case and we take the 3 evangelical vows as religious do but they are lived out more widely as we live in the world and not in a community. This again will vary slightly as a very few Institutes do live in communities and a few do not make vows of consecration and take married people. I can only tell you what mine does. I am not in America as you likely are but here’s a link to an American one. I hope it helps explain what they are. Also you could read. They were given papal approval in 1947 (if memory serves me right) but existed long before that. They are different from Third orders and govern themselves though they are often affiliated to an Order.
We would consider Jesus as the spouse of our soul.

 
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The idea of non-sexual romance existed in all times and all places until our modern world. It is sad that people do not have a place for non-sexual, platonic, romance between friends any more. I could get on a soap box about how this hurts our world.

This was a commonly sung hymn when I was a kid

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Jesus, Lover of My Soul

Authoritative information about the hymn text Jesus, Lover of My Soul, with lyrics, MIDI files, PDF files, printable scores, audio recordings, piano resources, and products for worship planners.
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Yes, we ought to have a personal relationship with Jesus.

Many Saints have written about the way you feel. When some nuns take their final vows, they wear a wedding dress and a wedding ring.

May you continue go grow close to Him.
 
Perhaps another way of thinking about Jesus, as an alternative to “boyfriend” (or romantic interest) is as “soul-mate.” I think this is appropriate in a lot of ways…
 
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