Is it ok to ask God to talk to/about our dead?

[Dsivanish]

I had a loss that really affected me way more than I ever imagined it would, I’m still in shock that it even happened, to tell the truth. We were estranged for a long time and when she died I was very unsure about the state of her soul. Conflicting evidence on both sides, and anyway it’s not up to me where her soul is now, but I want to know.
Is it ok to ask for a sign, or for a visitation, dream or whatever? In no way would I even consider a séance or anything like that. I would like to know, I need peace, I can’t keep crying over her.

 

[Anesti33]

You can pray to her for her intercession; if you find it is granted, then that may be an indication of something.

 

[goout]

Pray for her, that’s what we can do for the deceased. In my opinion asking for signs is not a productive pursuit or a good spiritual practice.

 

[Dan_Defender]

You can try this, but at the same time say ‘Lord, grant us what you will , as much as you will, when you will.’

 

[JMMJ]

Maybe ask for a sense of peace over the loss. This is what I do, and it seems to always be granted.

 

[umamibella]

It is better to pray for her soul and seek indulgences for her this month. Seeking visitations can lead a person open to the demonic.
In November we can seek indulgences for the dead in special ways. We can seek them at any time though.

 

[JerryZ]

What every body else has stated and every time you go to mass and the invocation for the departed souls is said then offer your prayer for her and praying a rosary specifically for her certainly will help.
Be aware that sometimes signs are given but can take years, therefore we need to persevere, never giving up. No despair, ok?

Peace

 

[Dsivanish]

I thank everyone, I know that this is mostly just the passage of emotions and me learning how to live with it, even if I don’t understand them.