Is it ok to be friends with an ex while i am engaged?

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I met my ex on ok cupid in September of 2012 and he broke up with me 3 times now he is married and now i am engaged and i am wondering if it is ok to be friends with my ex while being engaged to someone
 
Depends on what you mean by “friends” and what your fiancé thinks.

Casual stuff like wishing them happy birthday on Facebook? Probably fine. Going out for dinner and drinks with him? Not fine.
 
You and your fiance should have a talk about this and see how he feels. Then you’ll have an idea which direction to go.
 
Not sure why you would want to be friends with him given how he behaved towards you, but best to find out how your fiance feels about this friendship first.
 
I personally wouldn’t, unless there are children involved. I know it would cause a lot of trust issues with my wife and wouldn’t be worth the headache.
 
For most people, it would be imprudent to be friends with a former romantic interest. The only way would be if you are friends with your ex’s wife and your fiancee is friends with your ex, “couple friends”.
 
I agree with the Facebook comment, that kind of friendship is fine. I think it can be playing a dangerous game if it’s anything more. You’ve had an emotional bond with this person, and despite him/her breaking up with you you’ve still gone back time and time again. Men are usually attracted to the women they’re friends with. It seems to me to be asking for trouble. Why put yourself into this situation?
 
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That’s up to your finace, not us.

And also, just think about it for a moment. What’s your gut instinct?
 
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