Is it okay to feel hurt/disappointed?

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My best friend will be confirmed this coming Saturday (God’s permit). I am absolutely happy for her because it’s the next ‘level’ in her journey.

About a year ago, she was still an anti-Catholic Protestant. We’ve been through hard time where we had arguments almost every single days about Catholic teachings. With God’s grace, I was able to explain to her almost everything and help her to understand the misconception about Catholicism. I even went through Examen of Conscience with her when she returned to the Catholic Church.

After that, I suggested her to go for confirmation. Of course, I don’t want to take any credit, because all the credits are His. But I just feel kinda hurt when the person in charge for the confirmation said that I couldn’t be the Godparents because I’m still young (I’m 22 & she’s 25) and I wouldn’t help her.

It happened before when a patient in the hospital wanted a baptism, the priest said that I couldn’t be one because I was too young and wouldn’t be a good Godparents for him. But then, his Godparents didn’t even do anything for him to the day he died. I even had to help for the funeral.

I know it’s wrong to have negative feeling, but I feel so hurt and disappointed. Why am I being despised because of my age? After all, older Godparents = good. do Honestly, if I don’t keep reminding myself that I do it for Him, it’s easier to just be a Sunday Catholic.

I just feel horrible for having such negative feelings and wanting to prove that I am better than what people thoughts. I think I should go confession tomorrow. Am I looking for recognition? I don’t know, I am trying hard to suppress my feelings, but it just seems impossible.

I think I want to know how to be able to suppress my feelings so that I can do better in my service for Him, because it’s definitely a huge obstacle… Any tips? 🙂
 
Some people are biased against those who are a certain age. I’ve struggled against that myself. It’s natural to want to be recognized. I can’t say if those who are denying you the opportunity to be a Godparent are right or not, I don’t know you personally. But perhaps you can take solace in the fact that, even if no human does, God recognizes what you do for Him, and He will reward you someday for that. Just keep thinking about what it would be like to hear the Creator of the Universe say to you “Well done, good and faithful servant. Welcome to heaven.” and strive towards that, with His grace.
God bless! ^^
 
Wow, Pumpkin those you words you wrote are really touching. Hopefully next time I am feeling similarly to the O.P. I can remember that image of getting divine praise.

vince2paul- sorry I don’t have any better words for you. I understand how you feel and I would feel the same way. But God does see what you’ve done. Maybe the priest just wants someone who can give advice with marriage and job and stuff that comes later? Someone who has “been there, done that” and made all the usual mistakes themselves already. I’m sure it isn’t something personal about you. You’ve been an excellent Christian, though. And God sees.

Lynn
 
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My best friend will be confirmed this coming Saturday (God’s permit). I am absolutely happy for her because it’s the next ‘level’ in her journey.

About a year ago, she was still an anti-Catholic Protestant. We’ve been through hard time where we had arguments almost every single days about Catholic teachings. With God’s grace, I was able to explain to her almost everything and help her to understand the misconception about Catholicism. I even went through Examen of Conscience with her when she returned to the Catholic Church.

After that, I suggested her to go for confirmation. Of course, I don’t want to take any credit, because all the credits are His. But I just feel kinda hurt when the person in charge for the confirmation said that I couldn’t be the Godparents because I’m still young (I’m 22 & she’s 25) and I wouldn’t help her.

It happened before when a patient in the hospital wanted a baptism, the priest said that I couldn’t be one because I was too young and wouldn’t be a good Godparents for him. But then, his Godparents didn’t even do anything for him to the day he died. I even had to help for the funeral.

I know it’s wrong to have negative feeling, but I feel so hurt and disappointed. Why am I being despised because of my age? After all, older Godparents = good. do Honestly, if I don’t keep reminding myself that I do it for Him, it’s easier to just be a Sunday Catholic.

I just feel horrible for having such negative feelings and wanting to prove that I am better than what people thoughts. I think I should go confession tomorrow. Am I looking for recognition? I don’t know, I am trying hard to suppress my feelings, but it just seems impossible.

I think I want to know how to be able to suppress my feelings so that I can do better in my service for Him, because it’s definitely a huge obstacle… Any tips? 🙂
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Sounds like you are already doing great work for God and the Church. Its God’s decision when to reward you. Keep your chin up and keep up the good work.
 
Thanks for all the replies and words of encouragement. Thinking about it again, It’s a purification process for me and I’m just a little emotional sometimes.

I’ve seen people whose ego/pride has blinded them and I keep telling myself that I don’t want to be like them. Thus, God allows this to happen (?).

I have a verse that I always say to myself 1 Tim 4:12 “Let no one have contempt for your youth, but set an example for those who believe, in speech, conduct, love, faith, and purity.” But it’s not easy to do. 🙂

But for other young people, this could make them stop doing the Church activities. May be it’s a reminder to all to not be judgemental to young people? 😃
 
You ask about being in better service to Him and you seem to be of the impression that being denied ministry because of your age is getting in your way of that, but consider that you’ve already fulfilled your spiritual role in their lives for bringing them to the Church. It was God’s design that the baton got passed on to others for that particular soul, He simply uses the priest and others who turn you away as the means to convey his ‘well done my faithful servant’ to you. Please do not get discouraged for a job well done, just realize we each have specific roles to play.

Read 1 Corinthians 12 and be at peace.
 
You ask about being in better service to him and you seem to be of the impression that being denied ministry because of your age is getting in your way of that, but consider that you’ve already fulfilled your spiritual role in their lives for bringing them to the Church. It was God’s design that the baton got passed on to others for that particular soul, He simply uses the priest and other who turn you away as the means to convey his ‘well done my faithful servant’ to you. Please do not get discouraged for a job well done, just realize we each have specific roles to play.

Read 1 Corinthians 12 and be at peace.
 
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