Is it too late to change my daughter's godparents?

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Okay so I have a question… I dont want to sound rude but here it goes … so I asked my sister in law to be my daughters godmother but I made a mistake because I dont really like the way she is … for example she is way to friendly with my boyfriend and she is always wanting to come over … for example we were talking one day and she starts showing off her teeth to me and my boyfriend saying how perfect they are and I feel like she is always trying to do stuff like that in front of our family … I dnt want her as the godmother of my daughter is it to late to pick someone else?
 
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Thank u for replying I have asked my mom the same question she told me it’s to late because I asked already but I feel like it’s not late to choose someone else because the babtisum hasnt happen yet @Rob2
 
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As long as it hasn’t happened yet, it is not too late.

What your mom may mean is that it will probably hurt your sister’s feelings if you change. But if you feel that you need to change, you should. After the event, you can’t change.
 
Generally godparents are chosen because they embody Catholic values and will ensure their godchild is brought up in the faith. That being said, if she is a good, practicing Catholic then she qualifies and deciding to go with someone else just because she looked at your boyfriend wrong is kind of missing the point.
 
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I understand thank u for ur reply @powerandglory
 
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Thank u that’s what I am thinking it not to late now but if I just go on with picking her I feel like I’ll regret it later … @maryjk
 
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You need to figure out what is best for your daughter. Then you need to do that.

Choosing Godparents based on who you don’t want to upset is not a good way to choose.
 
Rosseee said:
for example we were talking one day and she starts showing off her teeth
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I feel like there’s got to be more to this story. Potential godmother bares teeth.🤔😆

Choose someone you think will be a good support to your child throughout a lifetime of living the faith.
 
If you are going to make the swap, you might think of who the replacement will be and explain it to your SIL in a way that doesn’t make it sound like the decision is about her. It could be a little awkward but much less so that saying we just dont want it to be you.
 
My advice, pick a non-family member. The family already have special roles “Auntie, Cousin, Grandpa”. This widens your child’s family.

Remember to check with your parish, in ours the Godparents have to take classes.
 
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If you are going to make the swap, you might think of who the replacement will be and explain it to your SIL in a way that doesn’t make it sound like the decision is about her.
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In some places it’s the custom to have more than just one godfather and one godmother. Would that be an option where you are?

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Sorry, I meant to address this question to the OP, not to @DisorientingSneeze!
 
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No … where I am it has to be only one godfather and one godmother… @BartholomewB
 
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BartholomewB:
Sorry, I meant to address this question to the OP, not to @DisorientingSneeze!
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As far as I know canon law permits max 2 godparents. If there are two they must be of opposite sexes.
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You’re correct.

But there are ethnic customs surrounding godparents that differ greatly from the Church’s. I’ve seen families with 10 -12 godparents for their baby. They are informed from the get-go that only two of these people will be listed in the register and the certificate of Baptism so they are made to pick whose names those will be.
 
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