Is it wrong to accept money from my parents when we're struggling?

[NoGreaterLove]

Seems kind of dumb. I know. Some background:

I had to leave my job in December due to my asthma. my doctor told me I am hypersensitive, and I am allergic to dust mites which is bad because I worked in retail, picked up clothes off the floor, dusted them, and that might as well be like someone allergic to peanuts eating their trigger, peanuts. I had to quit after I talked to my doc about it. My family is really, really tight on money. We struggle monthly but God always pulls us through. We can’t get food help (ebt) even though we struggle with that too. I find it hard to believe that people who buy stacks of soda boxes can get food stamps, but a family of 7 actually OWE the state because they gave us “too much” one time. I still thank God for what we do have and I know these trials will pass.

Point of this post is I am starting college, I applied for help and grants and got enough to cover my school and book costs, PRAISE GOD. I’m going to school because I want to work in ministry in the church. My mother gave me money to buy myself school clothes and school things. I feel guilty for taking it. Is it wrong to take it? School starts in less than 2 weeks. I’m re-using things to save money like my backpack from 3 years ago and shoes I got some time ago. Is it wrong to accept help from my parents? I feel selfish. She just got out of the emergency room too. i don’t want her to be worrying about paying bills. I’m going to look for work too, I haven’t found any yet. I’m relying on my grants to try and pay my parents back if possible.

Thank you and God Bless. Even though we struggle, God is providing for us! After years of battling anxiety and the fear of driving, God conquered that for me so i now have my license and can get myself to school and drive my sibling to work, grocery run etc! Because I asked him to help me trust in his will. God is so great. Even when we’re struggling, i see things clearer. May God bless you all.

 

[808Catholic]

Seems kind of dumb. I know. Some background:

I had to leave my job in December due to my asthma. my doctor told me I am hypersensitive, and I am allergic to dust mites which is bad because I worked in retail, picked up clothes off the floor, dusted them, and that might as well be like someone allergic to peanuts eating their trigger, peanuts. I had to quit after I talked to my doc about it. My family is really, really tight on money. We struggle monthly but God always pulls us through. We can’t get food help (ebt) even though we struggle with that too. I find it hard to believe that people who buy stacks of soda boxes can get food stamps, but a family of 7 actually OWE the state because they gave us “too much” one time. I still thank God for what we do have and I know these trials will pass.

Point of this post is I am starting college, I applied for help and grants and got enough to cover my school and book costs, PRAISE GOD. I’m going to school because I want to work in ministry in the church. My mother gave me money to buy myself school clothes and school things. I feel guilty for taking it. Is it wrong to take it? School starts in less than 2 weeks. I’m re-using things to save money like my backpack from 3 years ago and shoes I got some time ago. Is it wrong to accept help from my parents? I feel selfish. She just got out of the emergency room too. i don’t want her to be worrying about paying bills. I’m going to look for work too, I haven’t found any yet. I’m relying on my grants to try and pay my parents back if possible.

Thank you and God Bless. Even though we struggle, God is providing for us! After years of battling anxiety and the fear of driving, God conquered that for me so i now have my license and can get myself to school and drive my sibling to work, grocery run etc! Because I asked him to help me trust in his will. God is so great. Even when we’re struggling, i see things clearer. May God bless you all.

I’m not sure from your post but I get the impression you are not a parent yet. As a parent of grown children, I can tell you I’d do anything for them including giving them my last dollar. No sacrifice seems too much when it comes to our children and I sense that’s the same with your mother. How much love does God put into every mother? We’ll never understand so remember your mother’s sacrifice and honor her as God commanded. Study hard and be resolved to find a good job so you may repay her trust in you as well as the money you “borrow”.

My father is elderly now (my mother had passed a few years back) and I make it a point to drop everything to go to his aid if he needs me. Sometimes it’s just reading a letter to him because his vision is failing. Sometimes it’s taking him to his doctor’s appointment or picking up medication he needs but has forgotten to pick up at the local pharmacy. I remember all those years my parents took care of me and now, in their time of need, I’m happy to help them without a grumble. Please remember what your mother did for you this day (and all the other days) and thank God that she’s your mother and you still have time to tell her how much you love her.

Have a Blessed Day.

 

[powerofk]

I don’t think it’s sinful either way, honestly. If your mom politely offers to help or if you ask for her help (politely, not demanding or forcing her help) and she obliges, there is nothing wrong with that. On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with declining her help, either. Regardless, talk with your spouse about what he/she thinks you should do. Your decision should be made as a couple.

However, if you decline her assistance, but she insists on giving you money, it might be better to accept it - because it’s probably her feeling that she has an obligation to help her child, and she may feel like she’s being a “bad mother”/“bad grandmother” if she doesn’t help out. At the same time, try to find another job - one that doesn’t involve dusting!

 

[Allegra]

The only situation I can think of where it would be sinful to accept a gift would be if you were recieving it under false pretenses. Ex. Accepting a diamond necklace from a boyfriend you planned to break up with the next day or a graduation present from grandma when you didn’t actually graduate.

 

[VeritasLuxMea]

No.

 

[Iron_Donkey]

No, it is not.

 

[Xantippe]

Seems kind of dumb. I know. Some background:

I had to leave my job in December due to my asthma. my doctor told me I am hypersensitive, and I am allergic to dust mites which is bad because I worked in retail, picked up clothes off the floor, dusted them, and that might as well be like someone allergic to peanuts eating their trigger, peanuts. I had to quit after I talked to my doc about it. My family is really, really tight on money. We struggle monthly but God always pulls us through. We can’t get food help (ebt) even though we struggle with that too. I find it hard to believe that people who buy stacks of soda boxes can get food stamps, but a family of 7 actually OWE the state because they gave us “too much” one time. I still thank God for what we do have and I know these trials will pass.

Point of this post is I am starting college, I applied for help and grants and got enough to cover my school and book costs, PRAISE GOD. I’m going to school because I want to work in ministry in the church. My mother gave me money to buy myself school clothes and school things. I feel guilty for taking it. Is it wrong to take it? School starts in less than 2 weeks. I’m re-using things to save money like my backpack from 3 years ago and shoes I got some time ago. Is it wrong to accept help from my parents? I feel selfish. She just got out of the emergency room too. i don’t want her to be worrying about paying bills. I’m going to look for work too, I haven’t found any yet. I’m relying on my grants to try and pay my parents back if possible.

Thank you and God Bless. Even though we struggle, God is providing for us! After years of battling anxiety and the fear of driving, God conquered that for me so i now have my license and can get myself to school and drive my sibling to work, grocery run etc! Because I asked him to help me trust in his will. God is so great. Even when we’re struggling, i see things clearer. May God bless you all.

Nope.

By the way, do you have any student loans? If any of your “grants” are actually just loans, don’t use that money to give back to your parents.

Your parents presumably know what they are doing and wish they could do much more for you.

When you get out of school and have a job and before you start a family, that would be a nice time to 1) help with a younger sibling’s school or 2) help your parents in some way, although you could also consider yourself as repaying your parents by doing the same for your future children.

Best wishes!

 

[DarkLight]

The only situation I can think of where it would be sinful to accept a gift would be if you were recieving it under false pretenses. Ex. Accepting a diamond necklace from a boyfriend you planned to break up with the next day or a graduation present from grandma when you didn’t actually graduate.

It can be unwise in some cases. I’ve had to consider this with my family - not to take any gifts that might be used to create an obligation or command obedience.

 

[boomerang]

That’s what parents are for.

 

[Allegra]

It can be unwise in some cases. I’ve had to consider this with my family - not to take any gifts that might be used to create an obligation or command obedience.

Unwise, definately, but not really sinful.