Is it wrong to send suggestive pictures to your spouse?

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I believe in abstinence from premarital sex and to go with that, abstinence from viewing your partner in a sexual way so as not to inspire lust or temptation. But what about after marriage? Is it wrong to give suggestive pictures to your spouse? Is there a circumstance where that would be ok and not considered lustful?
 
Immoral? Probably not. I know a priest who said “foreplay is a 24 hour experiance”

Stupid? 100%… given the ZERO security of electronic devices. If you must do sexy pictures, get a polorid camera.
 
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Well yes, because it would be an occasion of sin for both. You are objectifying yourself and your spouse, exhibiting yourself as one does a fish in the display case at the grocers. I can’t say if there is a circumstance in which it would not be considered lustful, because I am not qualified to say. St Thomas Aquinas writes that “whatever virtues restrain or suppress, and the actions which moderate the impetuosity of the passions, are considered parts of temperance.” The key word is temperance. When the procreative act, like alcohol, leaves the ‘glass’ or the ‘bed’ in this case, there is an occasion of sin against the virtue of temperance, chastity being one of its tenets.
 
It may not be sinful if only your spouse sees them and isn’t using them for any immoral purpose like masturbating to them, or showing them around to his friends.

However, it’s not a very prudent thing to do. Suggestive pictures have a way of leaking and being seen by people you didn’t intend to look at them. So even if it’s not sinful, it’s not a good idea to appear in any picture that you wouldn’t want on the Internet with your priest/ mom / boss/ everybody at school looking at it.
 
LOL

Presumably he already knows what you look like nekkid.

The imagination can be far sexier than pics.
 
You can probably think of small things you can say, write, give, or do, which will express your love better than suggestive pictures. I mean really small, like a short poem, or something ordinary with a unique love note on it.

My wife, before we were married, once slipped something in my pocket: an “I Love Lemon” Bigelow tea bag modified by a sticker bearing my name covering the word Lemon. Not very sexy, but thirty years later I’m still warmed (and tickled) by the memory of it!

Use your imagination!
 
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It’s not really so much that I “must do sexy pictures.” Nor do I even particularly want to. It’s more that I have at times been tempted to and was wondering that if ever I should give into that temptation, it be wrong. Thank you for your feedback 🙂
 
I actually tend to agree with you. I was having a discussion with my partner about this yesterday and that is pretty much the conclusion we came to. we were just unsure if it was always wrong or if under certain circumstances it could be an innocent and loving thing to do. Your answer was very helpful, though 🙂
 
Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. To be respected. Not to be exploited in any way.
 
Thank you. I agree that it’s not a very prudent thing to do and I’ve always had a bit of a weird feeling about it, but I wanted to get some clarification here if it was actually a sin or not. I tend towards avoiding it completely, but as I said in another reply a moment ago, I am sometimes tempted and and just need to know if it’s a temptation to avoid completely.
 
Just to clarify ,you’ve mentioned partner a couple of times …are you married?Or asking a question about the future when you are married?
 
My wife and I wear blindfolds when we are engaged in sexual congress so as to avoid lustful temptations.

I’m kidding.

I think it’s not a great idea simply because most people aren’t good at posing or taking photos of themselves and nearly always end up looking less attractive than they are in real life.
 
Actually he doesn’t. We aren’t married yet. That’s part of why I was asking because we were actually discussing whether that would be appropriate or not in the future. But thank you 🙂 I will keep that in mind in the future!
 
Do not stress over it though. God will give you the grace, through the Blessed Mother, because in the sacrament of marriage, graces unknown abound. I’m not married, so I would not know, but the priests tell me this whenever I boast of being single.
 
I love this 😃 We actually do things like this a lot and I definitely plan on continuing the practice. I never thought about it as an alternative, though, and I love the idea. Thank you!
 
Agreed. I just wasn’t really clear if that automatically meant disrespect and exploitation, though.
 
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Well yes, because it would be an occasion of sin for both.
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I tend to disagree. I mean, getting in the mood and increasing the level of excitement towards your spouse without engaging in masturbation, is that really a sin?

However, I do believe that it’s better to be cautious because of the possibility of others obtaining your images.

I mean, would Nora Barnacle really want her extremely NSFW and graphic love letters to James Joyce be read publicly? Probably not. James would probably be as reluctant as her.

But a sin? Hm. Best consult a priest.
 
seeking_answers101 said:
… I was having a discussion with my partner about this yesterday and that is pretty much the conclusion we came to. we were just unsure if it was always wrong or if under certain circumstances it could be an innocent and loving thing to do…
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It’s good that you and your partner are thinking ahead and talking about things like this.
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I love this 😃 We actually do things like this a lot and I definitely plan on continuing the practice. I never thought about it as an alternative, though, and I love the idea. Thank you!
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Well, what I described is not exactly an alternative, as in “equivalent.” I was just trying to brainstorm that maybe there is something more discreet than photos, but still suggestive and maybe even erotic. I don’t know what form it would take – honestly, I have no idea – but that would be up to you and your beloved.
 
Xanthippe_Voorhees said:
Immoral? Probably not. I know a priest who said “foreplay is a 24 hour experiance”

Stupid? 100%… given the ZERO security of electronic devices. If you must do sexy pictures, get a polorid camera.
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I’d have to agree with this. I mean, if we never viewed our spouses in a sexual way or desired them…then there would be no procreation. I do think there is such a thing as focusing too much on the sexual aspect. Even in marriage there’s a balance to be had.

But I just would not be comfortable sending pictures of this nature via electronic device.
 
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