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Edy
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I struggle to keep my eyes to myself, especially when voluptuous, shapely woman are wearing next to nothing, or super skin tight clothes.
I’m currently a part of a men’s group called Man-Up which focuses on building a brotherhood of men, and teaches them to become better Fathers, Husbands and all round better men.
One week they taught about perversion. This group is run by a Protestant church so I question their teaching. They taught me that perversion is a twisting of the truth. The most obvious version is when looking at other woman.
They told me it’s ok to look at a woman, admit that she’s attractive, and then carry on about your day. But when you look a second time, now instead of saying she’s attractive you are now twisting the truth to mean that, you want her in a sexual way.
This helped me incredibly, because every time I accidentally glance at a shapely woman, I get all upset and agitated, and it’s hard to control my eyes until I calm down. It has taken a lot of practice, but sometimes instead of just a glance, I feel I need to blatently look for a couple seconds before I can relax.
God has gifted me with advanced visualisation. I use it to help me learn faster and accomplish difficult tasks. But while I was playing adrenaline pumping games for 48 hours at a time, My mental abilities advanced to the next level. I could glance at a woman, and look away but manifest a hallucination of her body shapes. I would rotate the hallucination and apply various physics and mechanics to see how it reacted. Ie. imagine them running and jumping or else poke and slap them. I was agnostic then, and thought it was harmless fun. But when I quit gaming and porn, gave my life to Christ, it still took a few months to wind down. I’d accidentally glance at a woman and try ignore it, but the hallucinations would still generate against my will. If I closed my eyes, they’d be even more vivid and realistic. This is no longer an issue but I’m still scared by it and the negative effects it had on me.
Now that I’ve given my life to Christ, devoted myself to prayer through fasting and wound down from gaming addiction, I’m starting to get my brain back so it’s time to re-evaluate.
I have a prayer I like to say that helps me most times…
“Heavenly Father, please forgive me.
Lord Jesus Christ, please guide me.
Mother Mary, please pray for me.
St Titus, please show me the ways of self control.”
And if I’m really struggling I’ll add in,
“Satan, I rebuke you in the name of Lord Jesus Christ.”
But there is times when I really struggle, I’ll repeat my prayer and adjust it to suit the situation. But just looking makes things easier. Personally I’d prefer to live in an Omish society where everyone dresses conservatively but that’s not an option for me. I’ll resort to looking, admiring a woman’s curves and then go on about my way.
I feel like this is me being weak and wonder if anyone has more tips or points of view to share with me. And also the Catholic teaching on this issue as my Catholic Nan says I’m sinning.
I’m currently a part of a men’s group called Man-Up which focuses on building a brotherhood of men, and teaches them to become better Fathers, Husbands and all round better men.
One week they taught about perversion. This group is run by a Protestant church so I question their teaching. They taught me that perversion is a twisting of the truth. The most obvious version is when looking at other woman.
They told me it’s ok to look at a woman, admit that she’s attractive, and then carry on about your day. But when you look a second time, now instead of saying she’s attractive you are now twisting the truth to mean that, you want her in a sexual way.
This helped me incredibly, because every time I accidentally glance at a shapely woman, I get all upset and agitated, and it’s hard to control my eyes until I calm down. It has taken a lot of practice, but sometimes instead of just a glance, I feel I need to blatently look for a couple seconds before I can relax.
God has gifted me with advanced visualisation. I use it to help me learn faster and accomplish difficult tasks. But while I was playing adrenaline pumping games for 48 hours at a time, My mental abilities advanced to the next level. I could glance at a woman, and look away but manifest a hallucination of her body shapes. I would rotate the hallucination and apply various physics and mechanics to see how it reacted. Ie. imagine them running and jumping or else poke and slap them. I was agnostic then, and thought it was harmless fun. But when I quit gaming and porn, gave my life to Christ, it still took a few months to wind down. I’d accidentally glance at a woman and try ignore it, but the hallucinations would still generate against my will. If I closed my eyes, they’d be even more vivid and realistic. This is no longer an issue but I’m still scared by it and the negative effects it had on me.
Now that I’ve given my life to Christ, devoted myself to prayer through fasting and wound down from gaming addiction, I’m starting to get my brain back so it’s time to re-evaluate.
I have a prayer I like to say that helps me most times…
“Heavenly Father, please forgive me.
Lord Jesus Christ, please guide me.
Mother Mary, please pray for me.
St Titus, please show me the ways of self control.”
And if I’m really struggling I’ll add in,
“Satan, I rebuke you in the name of Lord Jesus Christ.”
But there is times when I really struggle, I’ll repeat my prayer and adjust it to suit the situation. But just looking makes things easier. Personally I’d prefer to live in an Omish society where everyone dresses conservatively but that’s not an option for me. I’ll resort to looking, admiring a woman’s curves and then go on about my way.
I feel like this is me being weak and wonder if anyone has more tips or points of view to share with me. And also the Catholic teaching on this issue as my Catholic Nan says I’m sinning.
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