Is this a mortal sin?

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The other day I picked up my MIL to take her to the pharmacy. I pulled up in her driveway and honked. As she was coming out, I thought to myself, “I should get out of the car and help her so she doesn’t fall on the ice.” But I didn’t. I didn’t want her to fall or anything like that, but I just was feeling a bit resentful at that moment of everything I’ve been having to do for her lately. Some of it is necessity and I gladly do it, but some of it is things she can do but won’t. I want to confess this anyway b/c I’m ashamed of myself, but in your opinion does this fall into the mortal or venial category?
 
The sin doesn’t seem to fit all three conditions to make it mortal. However, if it is bothering you then you should confess it. Perhaps in the future even if its hard offer your strees and hard work up to The Lord. That way even more good can come from what your doing.

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I don’t think it meets the criteria for a mortal sin, but you’re probably right to fear that the negative feelings and attitudes that brought it about are leading you in a bad direction. So you should definitely go to confession, because it sounds like you’ve got quite a cross to bear, and you could use more of God’s grace in order to bear it.

Above all, you feel that doing this has separated you from God and you feel ashamed about it, so by all means return to Him through the confessional, it will do you so much good!
 
If you feel resentment over things you believe she can do, then maybe you shouldn’t do them. Is there some organization or program through your parish that could also lend her assistance. If you didn’t have all the burden, perhaps you wouldn’t feel badly. 🙂 We often overburden ourselves and then feel resentment for doing it. So, don’t do that, but do find some others who can help out or have a nice talk with her to encourage her to do for herself those things she can do for the sake of her health and her emotional wellbeing and not, of course, for any other reason–after all you’re not trying to just be rid of this responsibility but rather wanting/trying to do what is best for your MIL. :yup:
 
Definitely confess it. It may not fit a standard definition of Mortal sin, but it obviously bothers you, and it should for it fails the law of Love in the second great commandment (Love others as you Love yourself) and also, Jesus command that we Love each other as He has loved us.
Being resentful is not loving and so simply does not fit well with these commands.

Talk it over with your confessor.

Peace
James
 
It is easy to define sin and types. But in everyday life, there are grey areas, and we may never know and just leave it in God’s hands.

So for you own peace of mind, do what you judge will maintain this.

Be at peace.
 
Thanks. I definitely want to confess it but I am scrupulous, and my pastor has told me that unless I am in mortal sin, I should confess about once a month. So if this is mortal sin, I want to confess tomorrow, but if it’s venial sin I’ll wait at least a little longer. I have trouble waiting a month b/c I often think I’m in mortal sin.
 
In my opinion the matter can wait until your usual confession time.

Peace
James
 
I’m also very sure the sin is not mortal. Fear not
 
It most certainly doesn’t rise to the level of a mortal sin. Meciful heavens! If I had to confess every time I felt frustrated or annoyed with someone as mortal sin I’d be camped at the confessional 24/7.

CAF has a scrupulous persons small group to help support each other. If you haven’t looked into it, you may want to. 🙂
 
Thank you. I had to go speak to my priest this afternoon about another issue, and he assured me it was not a mortal sin. I will still bring it to my next confession.
 
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