Conversations on the topic of sexuality are not necessarily sinful; they are not intrinsically evil. We discuss sexuality in this discussion group (all too frequently!), and we do not necessarily sin merely by considering the topic. It is not necessarily a sin for a man and woman who are dating to discuss the topic. However, the intention must be good, and the good consequences must outweigh any bad consequences. If the discussion of certain topics leads to sin, then you should not discuss those topics.Is it a sin for an unmarried couple to talk to each other about what their turn-ons and turn-offs are? For example, me asking her if she prefers hairy chests or shaved chests, or telling her that she looks sexier when when she wears her hair down. We’re still not going to have sex until after we’re married.
People who are not married do not have sex, therefore they are not even thinking about what arouses a sexual desire, much less communicating that to other people especially some one of the opposite sex.Is it a sin for an unmarried couple to talk to each other about what their turn-ons and turn-offs are? For example, me asking her if she prefers hairy chests or shaved chests, or telling her that she looks sexier when when she wears her hair down. We’re still not going to have sex until after we’re married.
Oh come on. The couple are planning to get married. Surely some discussion on the topic is permissible between them during their engagement, as long as the avoid occasions of sin.People who are not married do not have sex, therefore they are not even thinking about what arouses a sexual desire, much less communicating that to other people especially some one of the opposite sex.
Hm . . . my fiance and I have already set up a joint bank account. We’ve had it for over a year, actually. Is that supposed to be a bad thing? (Or was this just an analogy?)Oh come on. The couple are planning to get married. Surely some discussion on the topic is permissible between them during their engagement, as long as the avoid occasions of sin.
Sexuality is a valid aspect of an individual’s personality. Just as folks need to discuss things like financial compatibility, desire for children, etc. during courtship, they should be able to at least discuss this aspect of themselves within reason!
Surely if a couple discusses finances before marriage, it doesn’t mean they’ll set up the joint bank account until after they’re married…
OP asked about an unmarried couple, not an engaged coupleOh come on. The couple are planning to get married. Surely some discussion on the topic is permissible between them during their engagement, as long as the avoid occasions of sin.
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Analogy.Hm . . . my fiance and I have already set up a joint bank account. We’ve had it for over a year, actually. Is that supposed to be a bad thing? (Or was this just an analogy?)
“We’re still not going to have sex until after we’re married.”OP asked about an unmarried couple, not an engaged couple
I agree. Having been involved with several Pre-Cana programs approved at the diocesan level, I’ve never seen one that didn’t have a unit devoted to communications concerning marital sexuality and intimacy. Or are we headed back to the sheet-with-a-hole-in-it days? (An urban legend, I guess, but I’m sure some here would be all in favor…)Oh come on. The couple are planning to get married. Surely some discussion on the topic is permissible between them during their engagement, as long as the avoid occasions of sin.
Sexuality is a valid aspect of an individual’s personality. Just as folks need to discuss things like financial compatibility, desire for children, etc. during courtship, they should be able to at least discuss this aspect of themselves within reason!
Surely if a couple discusses finances before marriage, it doesn’t mean they’ll set up the joint bank account until after they’re married…