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odile53
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I realize this is a very old post, but if he is this conflicted about discerning whether his call is to the priesthood or to marriage, at this point he wouldn’t make either a very good husband or a very good priest!
My thoughts on this are: This man has been conflicted about this since 2001. That’s about ten years at this point. You might want to ask yourself what allure he holds for you, if you have been on tenterhooks for that length of time. Ten years is a very long time for an audition!
Some women (and men) are merely intrigued by someone who appears to be unattainable. That might be a married person, a person who is so emotionally crippled that they would not make a good spouse, or in a case like this, someone who is trying to discern a vocation to a celibate life. In fact, a lot of people do this, and the divorce courts are full of the aftermath. “The uncapturable prey” might make for some excitement, but living out a life with such a person is a recipe for not only spiritual harm, but a lifelong emotional nightmare.
I don’t wish to be harsh, but rather than waiting around for him to make up his mind, you might be better served by stopping the courtship and using a year or so of your time trying to discern whether you yourself have a vocation to marriage, or are just taken up by the romance of the pursuit. A little investment like this will pay big dividends for your soul, your future happiness, and your sanity.
My thoughts on this are: This man has been conflicted about this since 2001. That’s about ten years at this point. You might want to ask yourself what allure he holds for you, if you have been on tenterhooks for that length of time. Ten years is a very long time for an audition!
Some women (and men) are merely intrigued by someone who appears to be unattainable. That might be a married person, a person who is so emotionally crippled that they would not make a good spouse, or in a case like this, someone who is trying to discern a vocation to a celibate life. In fact, a lot of people do this, and the divorce courts are full of the aftermath. “The uncapturable prey” might make for some excitement, but living out a life with such a person is a recipe for not only spiritual harm, but a lifelong emotional nightmare.
I don’t wish to be harsh, but rather than waiting around for him to make up his mind, you might be better served by stopping the courtship and using a year or so of your time trying to discern whether you yourself have a vocation to marriage, or are just taken up by the romance of the pursuit. A little investment like this will pay big dividends for your soul, your future happiness, and your sanity.