Is this guy faking interest?

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Hi everyone.

I have a classmate who might like me, but I am not sure, because his behavior is a bit odd.

One day, at class, he stared at me for some 20 seconds, with a normal/ordinary facial expression.

After that, I thought “he might like me”, so I would glance at him lots of times but he would never glance at me, it was almost like I didn’t even exist.

Then, after 3 months, we were at the same bus, and he stared at me again, this time making facial expression that hinted he was really interested. The expressions were too sexual and I got really shy/embarrassed.

After that, I would again glance at him on class and he would NEVER glance at me. He wouldn’t say hi, he wouldn’t make any eye contact at all. It made me really upset because I could not tell whether he was genuine or just faking interest and playing with my heart.

When guys like a girl, they will glance at them often. So what is going on? Why would he stare at me in some occasions then just forget I exist?
 
HSTV said:
The expressions were too sexual
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I don’t know what this guy might be thinking, but in light of this, I’d say it would be best to ignore him. Don’t give time and attention to a guy that would look at you this way. Look for the guys who will look at you with love and respect instead.
 
HSTV said:
When guys like a girl, they will glance at them often. So what is going on? Why would he stare at me in some occasions then just forget I exist?
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Myself, I was raised knowing not to stare at folks because it’s rude.

A girl in college was always staring at me in class. I asked her out for a cup of coffee and she refused. Then, she finally stopped staring at me.

I don’t think that you should read into his behavior. Just forget about it and move on.
 
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None of us will be able to give you a definitive answer - only he will be able to do that, if you ask him. But like Joe says, you may want to give it some thought as to whether you’d want to ask.

You don’t sound as if you know him well at all. You could always try to get to know him as a friend, if you wanted to.
 
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Cruciferi said:
Myself, I was raised knowing not to stare at folks because it’s rude.

A girl in college was always staring at me in class. I asked her out for a cup of coffee and she refused. Then, she finally stopped staring at me.

I don’t think that you should read into his behavior. Just forget about it and move on.
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Why she was staring at you then?
 
You’re talking about 2 incidents 3 months apart with a guy who it doesn’t seem you have even had an actual conversation with. I agree that you shouldn’t read into it and should just forget about it. Maybe he was looking at something behind you. Maybe he’s just messing with your head because he thinks it’s funny. Either way, it’s not worth getting hung up on it (or him). If he was that great a guy and was that interested in you, he should have come initiate a conversation with you some time in the past 3 months.
 
I agree with Joe. I don’t see that there’s much to do other than put it all out of your mind.
 
HSTV said:
that’s what I think, and it makes me feel really bad. 😦
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I’m sorry if the reason he’s doing this is to mess with you. It’s not worth all this energy you’ve put into thinking about it.
 
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that’s what I think, and it makes me feel really bad. 😦
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I’m sorry you feel bad. 😦 Don’t let it get you down. If that is the case, it just means he doesn’t know you, he’s a jerk, and he isn’t worth your time. You don’t need that sort of person in your life anyway.
 
Lou2U said:
I’m sorry if the reason he’s doing this is to mess with you. It’s not worth all this energy you’ve put into thinking about it.
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Joe_5859 said:
I’m sorry you feel bad. 😦 Don’t let it get you down. If that is the case, it just means he doesn’t know you, he’s a jerk, and he isn’t worth your time. You don’t need that sort of person in your life anyway.
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and worse yet, he knows it worked because when I see him I get a bit nervous/scared and he noticed it so now he knows I like him… It is so hard to stop worrying about it.
 
HSTV said:
It is so hard to stop worrying about it.
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It can be that way sometimes. Just do your best to divert your attention to other things. Say some prayers. Read a book. It will get easier. 👍
 
It did not get easier till now. All these things happened 5 years ago and I still feel bad about all of it.
I ask God everyday to release me from these memories but He does not help me.
 
Just go up, start a conversation with him and ask if he wants to go for a coffee or snack after class if you like him.
If you don’t like him, ignore him and forget it.
I can’t tell from this thread if you like him or not to be honest.

Don’t waste time fooling around with trying to read his facial expressions. That’s kid stuff.
 
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yes. 5 years ago.

I feel bad because there was a point where I would get really nervous around him and I think he noticed I liked him, yet he never talked with me even though he knew I liked him.
I think this mean I was just his “joke”.
 
Since you haven’t even spoken to him, what exactly is it you like about him? The thought that maybe he liked you because he looked at you? 🤔

And what is going on in your life that it is 5 years later and you are still thinking about this incident?

If you still see him, I doubt he even remembers that he looked at you 5 years ago.

Time to put this to rest.
 
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