"Is Trading Up, Giving Up"

[tonyg]

So many people I know have been affected by the curse of divorce. I’m sorry if the word curse sounds a bit strong but the affects of divorce certainly become a curse for all those involved. Nothing I can think of has had more of a negative affect on family life then divorce and the ripple effects it causes to everyone involved. Although there are legitimate grounds for divorce such as physical abuse or infidelity; I’m speaking about one person or another in a marriage trading up for something or someone new.
I’ve been married for twenty four years and I’ll be the first one to admit that married life is at times very difficult. There are so many circumstances in our daily lives that contribute to marriage pressure. Work schedules, finances, illnesses, and the day to day not always joyful grind of raising a family. That being said are those or any other number of reasons legitimate grounds for throwing in the towel? What ever happened to, for better or worse, in sickness or health, for richer or poorer until death do us part?
My personal opinion is if we’re just giving up, to trade up, as it seems to be the norm today, then we need to wake up! People that I know who have crossed this bridge all wind up saying the same thing after the passion wears off; it would have been better if they just made an effort to work things out. The grass may seem greener and the weather much warmer at first but then as with any human relationship the storms of life blow in.
In the meantime the lives of many innocent people have already been affected.
One of the main reasons marriage is in such peril today is all the garbage in the media. The traditional family is looked down upon by this force of darkness. Actors and actresses alike make a fine living portraying their loose living characters on the big screen. This sets the stage for many of their admirers and fans to follow suit.
Personally I don’t believe that a consecrated marriage should break up because a spouse just wants to give up and trade up! Maybe we should try once again to smell the roses as we did the first time we gave them to, or received them from our spouses. Try to recapture some of the love that first attracted us to our spouses rather than just giving up and trading up! I guess I’m just a little old fashion, that’s what my wife tells me.

 

[mariam1976]

So many people I know have been affected by the curse of divorce. I’m sorry if the word curse sounds a bit strong but the affects of divorce certainly become a curse for all those involved. Nothing I can think of has had more of a negative affect on family life then divorce and the ripple effects it causes to everyone involved. Although there are legitimate grounds for divorce such as physical abuse or infidelity; I’m speaking about one person or another in a marriage trading up for something or someone new.
I’ve been married for twenty four years and I’ll be the first one to admit that married life is at times very difficult. There are so many circumstances in our daily lives that contribute to marriage pressure. Work schedules, finances, illnesses, and the day to day not always joyful grind of raising a family. That being said are those or any other number of reasons legitimate grounds for throwing in the towel? What ever happened to, for better or worse, in sickness or health, for richer or poorer until death do us part?
My personal opinion is if we’re just giving up, to trade up, as it seems to be the norm today, then we need to wake up! People that I know who have crossed this bridge all wind up saying the same thing after the passion wears off; it would have been better if they just made an effort to work things out. The grass may seem greener and the weather much warmer at first but then as with any human relationship the storms of life blow in.
In the meantime the lives of many innocent people have already been affected.
One of the main reasons marriage is in such peril today is all the garbage in the media. The traditional family is looked down upon by this force of darkness. Actors and actresses alike make a fine living portraying their loose living characters on the big screen. This sets the stage for many of their admirers and fans to follow suit.
Personally I don’t believe that a consecrated marriage should break up because a spouse just wants to give up and trade up! Maybe we should try once again to smell the roses as we did the first time we gave them to, or received them from our spouses. Try to recapture some of the love that first attracted us to our spouses rather than just giving up and trading up! I guess I’m just a little old fashion, that’s what my wife tells me.

do you know of any more old fashioned guys???

i agree totally with what u have said… i remember my parents marriage… where things were not rosy at all… far from it… they had their fights and their fallouts but through it all, they knew one thing… that neither one would leave no matter what.
that was when the vows-for better or for worse meant it!!
i remember bringing up the same vow to my husband when we were splitting up and he said “it was all worse!!!”

still shouldnt you be together?? i wanted to tell him …

but when i heard that response i knew that it was all over becos he had already made up his mind. i knew that we had had our good moments and our bad moments but it was not something to throw the towel in for… but he did… i hope he finds the grass much greener on the other side as that is what he was aiming for as he left - LIFE GOES ON!! were his words…

 

[shirleytowers]

Plenty of people get divorced for good reasons. Some people inadvertently and through no fault of their own marry persons who turn out to be mentally ill, addicted, abusive, etc. These are the marriages that can be annulled, the marriages that really never were because one party was incapable of entering into such a contract or whatever.

What do you do if your husband or wife moves out and waves goodbye? You get a divorce so you won’t be liable for their taxes, etc. I feel the sorriest for those faithful Catholics whose spouse left and who cannot get their marriage annulled.

Many people are faithless and Godless. Some of these go to church and say they are Catholic, faithful Catholics. It is hard to tell a fake.

We need a better way to choose a spouse. Cana conference helps, but I hope in the future we can use our increasing knowlege of psychology and etc. to help people find more compatible spouses for better marriages. Catholic singles dot com should be mandatory!