Is wanting sympathy after a hard day or difficult experience just self-pity?

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So I just had a really difficult day and when I said that the task I was doing all day was tough, the response was just like, well, do you want to do it differently? And no like saying anything like, yeah, it is tough. Because it’s got to be done and not differentlh.

So I just think, maybe I should just be relying on God instead of looking for sympathy from anyone around me, but sometimes it would be nice to get some human sympathy even if no one can actually hug anyone these days. Is it wrong? Am I just feeling sorry for myself and should get over it? Like there are so many people who have way more problems than I do and people whose loved ones are sick, so like I know I do have a lot to be grateful for so maybe I am asking too much, and maybe there is a way of getting over this?
 
It is only human nature to want others to commiserate with your hardships and sufferings, and we do a spiritual work of mercy when we do this for others (comforting the sorrowful).

However, if for whatever reason such comfort is not forthcoming, you might unite your suffering with that of Christ in the Garden of Gethsemane, when He knew He was going to be crucified, and had no one to comfort him. Such sorrow can be offered up in reparation for your sins and the sins of others, both living and dead.
 
Thank you, HS Dad, for the reminder, I am better about offering things up than I used to be, but sometimes I still forget.
 
Getting compassion and encouragement from other people is a deep human need. There is nothing wrong with this.
 
I think it is normal to want sympathy. Nothing wrong with it.
 
It really depends how often someone is doing it, and especially if they are doing it to the same person all the time. Then it becomes a burden for the other person to have to listen to them and constantly soothe them. Sort of like having to take care of someone with special needs -except that being “needy” isn’t considered a disorder.
 
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