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Did Steve happen to mention that JWs do not believe there will be marriage in the resurrection? That families will be ‘reunited’ but in an incomplete way? So basically the remark about ‘less hope than a dead JW’ is pretty accurate.Thanks for the clarification, Ravyn. BibleSteve also sent me a PM with a detailed description of the beliefs about this issue. I’ve learned something today, and if I hear that idiom again, I’m in a better position to refute it. Not like I’m becoming a JW but I think we should be fair to others in their beliefs.
I was brainwashed into having my tubes tied because JWs do not encourage having children but encourage making ‘sacrifices for the Kingdom’ by engaging full time in the preaching work they do and put off having children until ‘the New World’.
Only problem is that part of the reason was my bad health—a JW man who was romantically interested in me at the time wanted me to stay a pioneer and not have children and have to quit pioneering–it is a status symbol for a JW man to have a pioneering wife, especially a man who is a Ministerial Servant or Elder—because my bad health was also life-threatening and it would be one or the other for me but not both. And pregnancy was dangerous for me, especially with no blood transfusions allowed.
So I lived with the terror that if I died and had to be resurrected I would never for all eternity have children, or a husband. I can not imagine a worse fate than to be alive forever–alone. Truly JWs have no hope. I have seen literally hundreds of women agonize with the same bleak prospect, (depression and mental illness is 4 times higher among JWs than other groups according to one Australian study some years ago.) I have known 2 suicides even.
It is easier now that I am 45 without children, but there will always be that regret. I raised 2 foster children, and I have two nephews and a niece. This is not something I will ever be able to completely forgive and forget.
And incidentally, that JW man disappeared and never called or explained why shortly after I had the surgery. I am happily married now to a man who was never a JW.