Jesus the cruel task master

[Steadfast_love]

My mom says that Jesus wants us to do whatever is most difficult. This week she says His divine will is for her to crash her brother in law’s wedding. (She was NOT invited). I asked what good could possibly come out of that, and she said that her brother in law hates her and will shout at her and then she will cry. She strongly encouraged me to bring my wife and children.

I don’t even know where to begin. What this kind of pathological christology is this? Does it have a name? Is there a patron saint against it? Help!

Edit: Don’t worry, I’m not going.

 

[Trishie]

Your mother is feeling very hurt, and she wants to do what she wishes because of her hurt and anger, and perhaps she can only justify doing what she wants by claiming it is God’s will.

Perhaps her brother-in-law may see her as a disturbing influence if she is prone to acting-out with her emotions? Her description of what she says will happen is an indication that your mother has unresolved difficulties.
We go to a wedding to show love and support, and to share in and expresses our joy in the couple’s happiness, not to bring discord and hurt to others.

Your mother wouldn’t be the only person her projects her own will to God so that she can do what she wishes. She has confused Her will with God’s but her will in this case is against Christian love, just as there is a possible lack of godly charity in the failure to invite her. To force oneself on others and be willing to cause anger to the groom and upset to the wedding guests…there’s nothing of God’s will in doing that.

I guess you understand that the rejection by her brother-in-law is eating her up and for her to project her desires on to God is within her mind a justification. It isn’t.
God desires love, unity, and peace. That is His will.

I’m sorry your mother is hurt and angry, but you don’t need to buy into her anger and her choices. It would be my impression that she wishes you to go to reinforce her decisions made of hurt and anger, as a further justification.
I guess you can understand the hurt and anger that is motivating what she says about Jesus and about her plans

I do hope your poor mother can find peace of mind.

 

[PumpkinSeed]

Jesus would not want that.

 

[3DOCTORS]

My mom says that Jesus wants us to do whatever is most difficult. This week she says His divine will is for her to crash her brother in law’s wedding. (She was NOT invited). I asked what good could possibly come out of that, and she said that her brother in law hates her and will shout at her and then she will cry. She strongly encouraged me to bring my wife and children.

I don’t even know where to begin. What this kind of pathological christology is this? Does it have a name? Is there a patron saint against it? Help!

Edit: Don’t worry, I’m not going.

Sadly, the name for it that comes to my mind is “mental illness.” Pray for your mother and try to get her to seek help. And it would probably be wise, if she has been, to lay off the trash TV with all the drama and dysfunction; sometimes that can be a bad influence on people. :twocents: Also good for you to be wise and stay out of the middle of it. Pray for guidance for yourself that you don’t get sucked into the muddle.

St. Dymphna is the patron against mental illness.

 

[empther]

It is extremely difficult to grow up without inheriting your parents’s emotional problems, but it has been done.
Perhaps there is a relative or school teacher you can talk to. Some time spent with them can do you a lot of good.

One big part of the education of life’s experience is to learn what not to do by observing how others have done it wrong.

Good luck!

 

[Catholic80]

My mom says that Jesus wants us to do whatever is most difficult. This week she says His divine will is for her to crash her brother in law’s wedding. (She was NOT invited). I asked what good could possibly come out of that, and she said that her brother in law hates her and will shout at her and then she will cry. She strongly encouraged me to bring my wife and children.

I don’t even know where to begin. What this kind of pathological christology is this? Does it have a name? Is there a patron saint against it? Help!

Edit: Don’t worry, I’m not going.

Um… her behavior is NOT Christian… at all.

She sounds like she has some mental health issues. I think you have an obligation to warn her brother-in-law ahead of time. NOW, if you have the chance. That way, he can have someone to stop her before she goes in if she really plans to go through with this.