Killed the wrong baby! Botched Italian abortion

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Of course, either one is wrong to kill anyway. Can you believe it? What was she thinking? “Hmm, I dont want the ‘bad’ one, I only want the ‘good’ one… let me kill his twin brother.”… wonder if she was ever planning on telling her kid that she wanted to kill his brother if it went right… now that it went wrong, what will happen, will she just get this other one killed also cuz she didn’t want him in the first place? or will she let this one live and then have to tell him that she killed his twin brother… if he can understand what she is saying.
 
I sometimes wonder what the survivors of selective reductions think when they eventually become aware that their siblings have been killed.
 
JimG said:
I sometimes wonder what the survivors of selective reductions think when they eventually become aware that their siblings have been killed.
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I would HOPE that these parents never tell them. Oh my goodness, I can’t imagine the psycological damage that would be done if a surviving child found out about it. 😦
 
I read the news links and could have just cried for those misled parents. I have a child with disabilities and have a disability(different than his) myself. 44 years ago, my parents were advised to send me off to an institution as I was born “deformed”. My parents had 9 older children at this point but didn’t even consider the option. They went on to have more children-“as many as God will grace us with”.

If it was in today’s world with prenatle testing, I believe that an abortion would have been strongly offered to them. I know that when my son was still in my womb, we were offered an abortion. My husband(anti-Catholic at the time:D 😃 😃 ) replied by taking me elswhere for the rest of the pregnauncy. This was our 3rd child, our gift from God.

Down’s babies are “the face of Jesus” accordingly to our friend who had a surprise baby late in life with downs. Great strides/treatments are making all the difference in these babies handicapps. How hopeless the parents must have felt and that is where my pity lies. Did no one in their life ever show them how God and his Grace flow through children especially the ones with a special mark? How empty are their lives.

FYI- my deformity caused the doctor to sedate my mother for 4 days and not let her know her baby was alive. Not let her know a priest had already baptised me. This deformity that the doctors said would be coupled with mental retardation and the inability to ever care for myself was…a cleft lip and pallette.🙂 Unbelievable now but very real just 44 years ago.

To fight such abortions, I think we have to give hope and support. How to do so, now that is where I am not so smart.😃

In his Grace.
 
My first born my son Joseph, Had Trisomy 18. He died just 1 hour after his birth in my arms.

I do understand this womans desire not to feel that pain. To know that you can do nothing, nothing at all to stop or in some way make ok the hurt of a birth gone wrong.

The gift that is seldom spoke of is love and the sacrifice that is made for that love. we were not promised that all would be ok we were only promised comfurt. I hurt for this woman who did what she was lead to believe was right but I am agry at all of those who say that just because a child is not “perfect” we have the right of life and death as if that in some way could take away the pain of losing a child… We cant ever understand unless it has been experianced to lose a child to know that there is nothing we can do ( we are suppose to kiss and make it go away) to stop the hurt. I will pray for her to know the sacrifice that love means.
 
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I would HOPE that these parents never tell them. Oh my goodness, I can’t imagine the psycological damage that would be done if a surviving child found out about it. 😦
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I can’t even imagine. My mom told me she had an abortion when she was younger and it kills me to know that my half brother/sister was killed and I never got the chance to meet him/her. I can’t even imagine how a child would feel to know his/her brother/sister was killed right next to them!
 
Dalphinus85,

I am hurt for your loss. You know when I first found out about my first son the medical community told me that he would never smile or have any kind of life.

I have spent many sleepless nights thinking about that. I know now that he could have smiled and shared a time interacting with my family that “they” said he never would have. The question is am I a murderer for keeping from him the medical attention neccesary to sustain his life never mind if it would have worked or not?

I did not kill him but on the same token I did not do everything I could to sustain his life. I did have him baptised I loved him even when they placed him in my arms and for a split second I hated him for hurting me like this I still loved him.

You can love the sibling who died no matter the manner of his/HER death. LOVE KNOWS NO BOUNDS, try instead to know that one day you will meet him and then you will behold each other and death does not end that love.

Every year I celebrate my sons life and what it taught me. the most important lesson is to get off the fence and stand fore what I know to be true. that is love.
 
s4angel,

This child is safe/happy in God’s arms. As I pray to “my brothers and sisters” in heaven, Joseph is there. What a help to you and yours in your path to heaven he is.

You are not a murderer. You are a mother who lost a child. The “what ifs” are part of grief and may never go away. Please forgive yourself for what you didn’t do because you didn’t know to do and bless the fact that he is in your life.

Thank you so much for sharing and reminding me to count my blessings.
 
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