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Who’s Kim Kardashian?
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It’s sad.
But what’s interesting is that many regular folks (the public) see this as a sort of “wakeup call” about how trivial our U.S. culture has become. So perhaps good will come out of this, and many regular people will examine more deeply their motives for getting married, and if it’s just for the sake of a fancy wedding, perhaps they will decide to have a fancy party instead.
I agree with the poster who said that Ms. Kardashian wanted a wedding, not a marriage. But let’s be honest–many women feel the same way about weddings. Many of us love weddings and sigh over the idea of a “Fairy Tale Wedding” for ourselves, even if we are way past our youth!
Some of the most popular television show episodes in history (highest viewership) have been “wedding episodes.” I believe that the Luke and Laura wedding on General Hospital can still claim one of the highest ratings ever. Soap operas have always produced lavish wedding episodes, and even if people never watch soaps, often they (women) will tune in for a wedding episode because they’re usually so beautiful.
My daughter got married 3 years ago, and she loved her wedding and often wishes that she could have another wedding… My older daughter (single) has often talked about becoming a wedding planner because she loves weddings; several of her friends, BTW, have asked her to plan their wedding and “stage-manage” it. (She’s a professional stage manager.)
And I and many of my friends (I’m 54) have talked about wishing that all couples could have a “2nd wedding” just to be able to experience the fun and excitement of planning the wedding, having another shower (to replace all our ratty towels and beat up Corningware and Tupperware and to get a matching set of pots and pans!), and buying the dress and selecting the music, writing the ceremony, booking the reception–weddings really are fun for women, and it is a shame that U.S. culture doesn’t have a way that older married women can experience the pomp and romance of a wedding once they have been through it. (Unless, of course, a woman gets married multiple times.)
Now of course, for those of you raised as strict Catholics or fundamentalist Protestant, you possibly find all of this disgusting, because you might feel that it detracts from the sacramental nature of a wedding.
Well, you’re probably right, but IMO, the High Mass Latin Catholic wedding is about as pomp-filled and ceremonial and magnificent and theatrical as you can get, and often Catholic wedding receptions are all-night affairs that involve quite a few rituals, toasts, a full meal, dancing, fancy dresses, lots of romance, etc. So IMO, a fancy wedding is just as much part of Christian thinking as secular thinking. As I said, many women sigh over the idea of a romantic, fairy-tale wedding.
And I think that’s OK–it’s a feminine thing to love romance and beauty, flowers, harp music, pretty dresses, getting your hair and nails done, gifts in silver wrapping paper, dancing, etc. I’m not a man and I don’t want to be like a man and condemn all this stuff as silliness or unnecessary . Of COURSE it’s unnecessary! Women know that! Getting flowers or candy or a sentimental card from a husband is unnecessary, too, but it’s sure nice when it happens. I think it’s important for a couple to keep perspective–go ahead and spend time and money planning the wedding, but make sure to spend even more time (and money) planning the MARRIAGE. (That’s what I told our daughter and her husband when they told us that they were engaged.)
But what’s interesting is that many regular folks (the public) see this as a sort of “wakeup call” about how trivial our U.S. culture has become. So perhaps good will come out of this, and many regular people will examine more deeply their motives for getting married, and if it’s just for the sake of a fancy wedding, perhaps they will decide to have a fancy party instead.
I agree with the poster who said that Ms. Kardashian wanted a wedding, not a marriage. But let’s be honest–many women feel the same way about weddings. Many of us love weddings and sigh over the idea of a “Fairy Tale Wedding” for ourselves, even if we are way past our youth!
Some of the most popular television show episodes in history (highest viewership) have been “wedding episodes.” I believe that the Luke and Laura wedding on General Hospital can still claim one of the highest ratings ever. Soap operas have always produced lavish wedding episodes, and even if people never watch soaps, often they (women) will tune in for a wedding episode because they’re usually so beautiful.
My daughter got married 3 years ago, and she loved her wedding and often wishes that she could have another wedding… My older daughter (single) has often talked about becoming a wedding planner because she loves weddings; several of her friends, BTW, have asked her to plan their wedding and “stage-manage” it. (She’s a professional stage manager.)
And I and many of my friends (I’m 54) have talked about wishing that all couples could have a “2nd wedding” just to be able to experience the fun and excitement of planning the wedding, having another shower (to replace all our ratty towels and beat up Corningware and Tupperware and to get a matching set of pots and pans!), and buying the dress and selecting the music, writing the ceremony, booking the reception–weddings really are fun for women, and it is a shame that U.S. culture doesn’t have a way that older married women can experience the pomp and romance of a wedding once they have been through it. (Unless, of course, a woman gets married multiple times.)
Now of course, for those of you raised as strict Catholics or fundamentalist Protestant, you possibly find all of this disgusting, because you might feel that it detracts from the sacramental nature of a wedding.
Well, you’re probably right, but IMO, the High Mass Latin Catholic wedding is about as pomp-filled and ceremonial and magnificent and theatrical as you can get, and often Catholic wedding receptions are all-night affairs that involve quite a few rituals, toasts, a full meal, dancing, fancy dresses, lots of romance, etc. So IMO, a fancy wedding is just as much part of Christian thinking as secular thinking. As I said, many women sigh over the idea of a romantic, fairy-tale wedding.
And I think that’s OK–it’s a feminine thing to love romance and beauty, flowers, harp music, pretty dresses, getting your hair and nails done, gifts in silver wrapping paper, dancing, etc. I’m not a man and I don’t want to be like a man and condemn all this stuff as silliness or unnecessary . Of COURSE it’s unnecessary! Women know that! Getting flowers or candy or a sentimental card from a husband is unnecessary, too, but it’s sure nice when it happens. I think it’s important for a couple to keep perspective–go ahead and spend time and money planning the wedding, but make sure to spend even more time (and money) planning the MARRIAGE. (That’s what I told our daughter and her husband when they told us that they were engaged.)
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I think you’re missing the point.There’s a difference between a wedding and a marriage.I think it’s great that your daughters are happily married.It’s one thing to want another celebration of that special day but in Kim’s case this was nothing more than a disgusting publicity stunt.Please do not compare Kim to us regular women.She got paid more than 17 million dollars for her fake wedding and got divorced the same week her mother’s new book came out and their new store opened.How convenient right?!This was planned from day 1.This isn’t about having a fairytale wedding.For a woman whose claim to fame was her sex tape this was just a way to keep her name in the trashy tabloids.That’s why I can’t respect her.Her sham of a marriage was a way to keep her relevant while cashing in on millions.
I think you’re missing the point.There’s a difference between a wedding and a marriage.I think it’s great that your daughters are happily married.It’s one thing to want another celebration of that special day but in Kim’s case this was nothing more than a disgusting publicity stunt.Please do not compare Kim to us regular women.She got paid more than 17 million dollars for her fake wedding and got divorced the same week her mother’s new book came out and their new store opened.How convenient right?!This was planned from day 1.This isn’t about having a fairytale wedding.For a woman whose claim to fame was her sex tape this was just a way to keep her name in the trashy tabloids.That’s why I can’t respect her.Her sham of a marriage was a way to keep her relevant while cashing in on millions.
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