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RottweilerLover
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Thank you for taking the time to read and answer my question.
I went to Mass last Sunday after having had knee surgery on the previous Thursday. I was using a crutch and my husband helped me get into the pew. The lady to my left, the side of my affected knee, insisted on using the kneeler - up, down, up, down. At one time she even grasped the tip of my crutch to move it so the kneeler could go all the way to the floor. It was very obvious that I was in pain and had great difficulty bending my knee to allow the kneeler down.
When I later said something about what I construed as rather selfish behavior, a woman I know well told me that she ALWAYS kneels, even if she is having a bad day and has to put on her knee brace. She said I should have used a wheelchair and not sat in the pew and that I was the one being inconsiderate. She stated she would not have deferred to me, either. (I felt that the person could have deferred to my disability and not used the kneeler - that she could either half-kneel or kneel on the floor.).
I’m upset at her attitude and think if a handicapped person sits next to me in church, I should make that person as comfortable as possible and not force kneelers or any other action to cause him or her unnecessary discomfort. It was IMPOSSIBLE for me to kneel on top of an incision! Am I supposed to kneel, and as she said, " offer it up"? I felt that I was already making a sacrifice by coming to Mass, which it alone caused me discomfort.
I’m very upset by this person’s comment because she said it as if I was not reverencing my Lord and Savior because I did not kneel at the Consecration. I would NEVER dishonor Jesus in any way! I have a bone disorder and have had eight surgeries in nine years and offer my pain up every day. Am I wrong to think the lady at Mass should have not caused me pain over this kneeler? Or should I honor her desire to kneel?
I went to Mass last Sunday after having had knee surgery on the previous Thursday. I was using a crutch and my husband helped me get into the pew. The lady to my left, the side of my affected knee, insisted on using the kneeler - up, down, up, down. At one time she even grasped the tip of my crutch to move it so the kneeler could go all the way to the floor. It was very obvious that I was in pain and had great difficulty bending my knee to allow the kneeler down.
When I later said something about what I construed as rather selfish behavior, a woman I know well told me that she ALWAYS kneels, even if she is having a bad day and has to put on her knee brace. She said I should have used a wheelchair and not sat in the pew and that I was the one being inconsiderate. She stated she would not have deferred to me, either. (I felt that the person could have deferred to my disability and not used the kneeler - that she could either half-kneel or kneel on the floor.).
I’m upset at her attitude and think if a handicapped person sits next to me in church, I should make that person as comfortable as possible and not force kneelers or any other action to cause him or her unnecessary discomfort. It was IMPOSSIBLE for me to kneel on top of an incision! Am I supposed to kneel, and as she said, " offer it up"? I felt that I was already making a sacrifice by coming to Mass, which it alone caused me discomfort.
I’m very upset by this person’s comment because she said it as if I was not reverencing my Lord and Savior because I did not kneel at the Consecration. I would NEVER dishonor Jesus in any way! I have a bone disorder and have had eight surgeries in nine years and offer my pain up every day. Am I wrong to think the lady at Mass should have not caused me pain over this kneeler? Or should I honor her desire to kneel?