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puzzleannie
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do it anyhow, we are suckers for the lame stuff
if you rub her feet we can probably get a few years knocked off your purgatory, use massage oil, and we will research indulgences.
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if you rub her feet we can probably get a few years knocked off your purgatory, use massage oil, and we will research indulgences.
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Island_Oak
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Tell your wife to choose a “day off” (preferably a weekend when you’re around) and let her plan whatever she wants for that time. If you have kids–YOU take care of them, drive them, feed them…whatever it takes so she is totally free from her normal responsibilities. One Saturday or Sunday is a small thing to give–but the break will mean the world to her and refresh her spirit. I guarantee when she comes home she’ll find a great way to thank you! 
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chabula
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Okay, all of these are fantastic ideas. My advice?
Do these things often without expecting an intimate reward afterward. You’ll be surprised. By doing this, you may find more rewards then you ever imagined!!! grin
Have fun!
Do these things often without expecting an intimate reward afterward. You’ll be surprised. By doing this, you may find more rewards then you ever imagined!!! grin
Have fun!
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paradoxy
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A day off! What a wonderful idea! OK, I’m off to daydream a bit (I’m breastfeeding and not likely to get a day off anytime soon…Tell your wife to choose a “day off” (preferably a weekend when you’re around) and let her plan whatever she wants for that time. If you have kids–YOU take care of them, drive them, feed them…whatever it takes so she is totally free from her normal responsibilities. One Saturday or Sunday is a small thing to give–but the break will mean the world to her and refresh her spirit. I guarantee when she comes home she’ll find a great way to thank you!
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puzzleannie
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ladies I think we are in great danger here of being really tempted by the idea of assigning our husbands’ penances, hmm think I will speak to our priest, this is too good a chance to miss.
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lizaanne
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Sooooooo? You asked us - so what did you end up doing?
~Liza
~Liza
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duskyjewel
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Well, I kind of agree with the OP about his original ideas. Those would be HELPFUL and appreciated I am sure, but he is supposed to be focusing on his wife and doing something JUST for her… not in service of the house & family. Which I know can look like the same thing a lot of times, but I really think he needs to do something special and out of the ordinary that he might not normally do.
Speaking for myself, the following things would be extremely appreciated and perceived as focusing just on me: good chocolate (I am sure you know her fave), a nice wine (if I wasn’t pregnant), maybe flowers, neck and shoulder and foot massages (stress lives in the former, and the latter have accupressure points that benefit the entire body), and a long hot bath with a favorite bubble bath or scented oil, as uninterrupted as possible, and yes, if she is a reader, I second the book recommendation. Or perhaps some really soothing music on CD (think Josh Groban, Andrea Boccelli, personally I find Gregorian chant very soothing and relaxing). If you cook, then a special dinner, perhaps eaten late after any kiddos are already fed and in bed would also be nice…maybe candles…
Speaking for myself, the following things would be extremely appreciated and perceived as focusing just on me: good chocolate (I am sure you know her fave), a nice wine (if I wasn’t pregnant), maybe flowers, neck and shoulder and foot massages (stress lives in the former, and the latter have accupressure points that benefit the entire body), and a long hot bath with a favorite bubble bath or scented oil, as uninterrupted as possible, and yes, if she is a reader, I second the book recommendation. Or perhaps some really soothing music on CD (think Josh Groban, Andrea Boccelli, personally I find Gregorian chant very soothing and relaxing). If you cook, then a special dinner, perhaps eaten late after any kiddos are already fed and in bed would also be nice…maybe candles…
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whatevergirl
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If it were my hubby…I’d like a massage…a warm bath…(already waiting) and…for him to listen to me chat all night– without watching ESPN.
Ok…maybe just the first two.
without watching ESPN. Ok…maybe just the first two.
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Altesse
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Any of these are good. But don’t just do them for a one time penance. Help out every day with cooking, cleaning, laundry and kid chores. In a month, you will have a whole new wife.
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