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Greenfields
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How does one learn detachment without going too far in dying to ones hopes and dreams ?
How do you keep detachment seperate from resignation ?
How do you keep detachment seperate from resignation ?
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zgraf2
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I suppose it could be difficult.
But how would one give up another “unhealthy” habit that one is trying to work on?
Say, smoking, drinking, excessive anger, etc.?
Maybe similar techniques might apply. I don’t have the answer, but “baby steps” seems to come to mind. Oh–and prayer.
But how would one give up another “unhealthy” habit that one is trying to work on?
Say, smoking, drinking, excessive anger, etc.?
Maybe similar techniques might apply. I don’t have the answer, but “baby steps” seems to come to mind. Oh–and prayer.
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Irishmom2
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I think we would need to see how detachment is connected to your hopes and dreams. Personally, I don’t see detachment having any part in my hopes and dreams.
Or are you asking how to not get your hopes up?
Or are you asking how to not get your hopes up?
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Shakuhachi
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Start where your own attachments may conflict with the needs of others or caring for others.
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SPBlitz
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I think that detachment is one of those things that you can never get by trying to get it. I don’t think God wants you to give things up merely for the sake of giving them up. There’s nothing wrong with pursuing your hopes and dreams using lawful means. It’s wrong when you pursue them at any cost, even if that means going against God. I wouldn’t worry too much about detaching yourself, nor should you seek opportunities for detachment. When God sees fit, he will present the opportunity to you, to either choose your own will or detach yourself from it and follow His.
Follow Jesus’ example in the garden. “Let this cup pass from me, but not my will but yours be done”. Pursue your own good (using non sinful means), with a willingness to follow Gods will if the two happen to differ.
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1Lord1Faith
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I wonder what your hopes and dreams are that they would die if you learned detachment.
Is one of your hopes and dreams to learn detachment?
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Heavenward
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I think you are misunderstanding the relationship between detachment and hopes and dreams.
Hope is the passion one feels when that person desires a future goodness that is difficult to achieve. But a difficult good means that there is a possibility of failure of its achievement.
Detachment then is essential for your hopes and dreams because it acknowledges that possibility of not achieving them by accepting their difficulties. And in the same vein, it is actually attachment that kills hope and turns it into resignation and despair.
Hope is the passion one feels when that person desires a future goodness that is difficult to achieve. But a difficult good means that there is a possibility of failure of its achievement.
Detachment then is essential for your hopes and dreams because it acknowledges that possibility of not achieving them by accepting their difficulties. And in the same vein, it is actually attachment that kills hope and turns it into resignation and despair.
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0Scarlett_nidiyilii
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Think I get what you’re driving at.
Like maybe somebody really wants a baby, but they’re having fertility problems and havent conceived yet?
Like how much should they get their hopes up or how much planning should they do for something that might not happen?
How sad and angry we get at the situation?
How much effort we put to it?
Like maybe somebody really wants a baby, but they’re having fertility problems and havent conceived yet?
Like how much should they get their hopes up or how much planning should they do for something that might not happen?
How sad and angry we get at the situation?
How much effort we put to it?
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MNathaniel
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Maybe pray something like:
“God, help me to want what You want.”
And be genuinely open to letting Him change what you want. That inherently requires detachment, so God will grow you in a healthy sort of detachment as you pray a prayer like this.
I think the point of detachment is about wanting God’s will to be done so much, and God to be glorified so much, that we’re willing to cooperate in doing it any way God prefers, not just some private way we’d prefer.
And honestly I think in the end the God who made your heart will fulfill your heart when you genuinely give it up to Him.
But giving it up to Him means really giving it up to Him, and asking Him to change even our desires if He would be more glorified by us desiring something different.
I think the process, over time, of praying prayers like that, is how we arrive at happy detachment. Not ‘resignation’ in a gloomy sense, but true peace of knowing that you really want what God wants (to the best of your ability), whatever that is. (And whether or not you can consciously figure out what that is.)
Don’t know if that makes sense the way I said it. Is sort of my own approach though.
“God, help me to want what You want.”
And be genuinely open to letting Him change what you want. That inherently requires detachment, so God will grow you in a healthy sort of detachment as you pray a prayer like this.
I think the point of detachment is about wanting God’s will to be done so much, and God to be glorified so much, that we’re willing to cooperate in doing it any way God prefers, not just some private way we’d prefer.
And honestly I think in the end the God who made your heart will fulfill your heart when you genuinely give it up to Him.
But giving it up to Him means really giving it up to Him, and asking Him to change even our desires if He would be more glorified by us desiring something different.
I think the process, over time, of praying prayers like that, is how we arrive at happy detachment. Not ‘resignation’ in a gloomy sense, but true peace of knowing that you really want what God wants (to the best of your ability), whatever that is. (And whether or not you can consciously figure out what that is.)
Don’t know if that makes sense the way I said it. Is sort of my own approach though.
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