Life can be funny sometimes

[TheLordsSon]

I’m going to lose the ability to produce children/being married in the catholic church having to get both testicles removed due to medical reasons…when I was healthy I’ve always wanted a girlfriend and I found one that I could have seen myself marrying one day; but now through these circumstances I have to somehow break off communication with her and live the rest of my life alone because I won’t be allowed to be married in the catholic church. Part of me doesn’t want to succumb to that but the other part doesn’t want to live a sinful life of joy on earth only to be banished to the lake of fire forever. I’ve returned to the catholic church because I want eternity in heaven but this is feeling like hell on earth and it’s literally tearing me apart. I pray to God he give me the strength but I feel so alone keeping this to myself, I’m finding it hard to keep going when all my dreams have been crushed; what can God do for me on earth now? In school or at my job I can’t concentrate, I had so many ambitions and talents that are going to waste. I can’t even adopt in the future because agencies aren’t in love with the idea of single men adopting…I’m feeling like I’m worthless, I feel hopeless, and the only thing I have left is God but my faith is only strong because of not having anything else…I wake up everyday just wanting to sleep all day, I’m losing my friends and losing any ambition in life. Why does the bible say: Deuteronomy 23:1 ‘No one whose testicles are crushed or whose male organ is cut off?
shall enter the assembly of the Lord.’ What does this mean?

 

[Oneofthewomen]

My dear friend I believe that you are mistaken in your beliefs here.
I do not claim to be a Canon Lawyer, but I do not think that God wants you to be miserable and alone. Please talk to a priest about this, only he will be able to help you understand what is fact and what is not, and how to deal with the situation in the proper way.

Peace be with you on your journey.
I will keep you in prayer.

 

[Claire_from_DE]

I think you are misinformed about not being able to be married in the church. Sterility is not an impediment to marriage, but impotence is. If your surgery leaves you able to complete the marriage act, to engage in intercourse, you can validly marry.

Please check this with a priest.

 

[if_youCthispray]

the only thing I have left is God but my faith is only strong because of not having anything else

Thats all you need. Everything else is secondary. A lot of the Saints gave up everything so the only thing left would be God.

 

[TheLordsSon]

Thats all you need. Everything else is secondary. A lot of the Saints gave up everything so the only thing left would be God.

Going to bed I have all the faith in the world and I wake up feeling like I’m crazy and have to rebuild my faith again throughout the day; it’s exhausting. I feel detached from the world always making excuses of why I can’t do this or do that. I grew up catholic but truthfully was always skeptical for whatever the reason. Now all of the sudden I have to have complete faith in God for my own sanity or purpose in life because without it I feel so lonely. All I ever wanted to be was happy, and being surrounded by people who get angry at the smallest things makes me cringe.

 

[SteveGC]

I’m going to lose the ability to produce children/being married in the catholic church having to get both testicles removed due to medical reasons…when I was healthy I’ve always wanted a girlfriend and I found one that I could have seen myself marrying one day; but now through these circumstances I have to somehow break off communication with her and live the rest of my life alone because I won’t be allowed to be married in the catholic church. Part of me doesn’t want to succumb to that but the other part doesn’t want to live a sinful life of joy on earth only to be banished to the lake of fire forever. I’ve returned to the catholic church because I want eternity in heaven but this is feeling like hell on earth and it’s literally tearing me apart. I pray to God he give me the strength but I feel so alone keeping this to myself, I’m finding it hard to keep going when all my dreams have been crushed; what can God do for me on earth now? In school or at my job I can’t concentrate, I had so many ambitions and talents that are going to waste. I can’t even adopt in the future because agencies aren’t in love with the idea of single men adopting…I’m feeling like I’m worthless, I feel hopeless, and the only thing I have left is God but my faith is only strong because of not having anything else…I wake up everyday just wanting to sleep all day, I’m losing my friends and losing any ambition in life. Why does the bible say: Deuteronomy 23:1 ‘No one whose testicles are crushed or whose male organ is cut off?
shall enter the assembly of the Lord.’ What does this mean?

My friend, please go sit and talk with your local parish priest. I sense you are reading so much into your situation without the benefit of real knowledge. Call your parish today and schedule an appointment. Seriously. Do not be embarrassed by anything. Your priest has heard more than you can imagine. And afterward, will you come back here and report how that went?

 

[TheLordsSon]

My friend, please go sit and talk with your local parish priest. I sense you are reading so much into your situation without the benefit of real knowledge. Call your parish today and schedule an appointment. Seriously. Do not be embarrassed by anything. Your priest has heard more than you can imagine. And afterward, will you come back here and report how that went?

I will eventually talk to my priest and tell you how everything goes but I’m just so heart broken at the moment, thanks for your words. God bless.