In 2019, are there that many Catholics who previously had support from parishioners, but then that support was cut off in scornful rejection after a divorce? Do they now wear a red letter A when out walking?
The Bishop would probably know about the numbers better than I do, but I do have first-hand knowledge that it does happen. Because some of these people then end up in my office (Protestant pastor on her way to Rome here) or in my husband’s (Protestant pastor on his way to nowhere else), or in a colleague’s.
This is anecdata, but I still find it telling : last September, I intervened in our (Reformed) formation cursus for future deacons, to teach them about music and liturgy. This year, there are eight candidates. On these eight, guess how many are originally Catholics who left the Church because they were hurt by the reactions to their divorce ? Seven. Seven ! (In the last group, they were four out of six.) All decent persons who would have been ready to dedicate their time and skills to Christ in the Church, hadn’t their marriage failed.
Granted, from what they told me, they are hurt for what I would say are bad reasons (because they do not understand that the Church does not conform to societal norms). But, whatever I think of their reasons, it doesn’t change the fact that the hurt, the feeling of having been abandoned and the resentment are very, very real.
I, for one, am happy when something is done to reach out to these couples who are turning their backs on the Church, and to explain, with kindness and compassion, Her position on remarriage, the conditions which would make an annulment possible, and how to still find purpose and fulfillment in remaining in the Church when you cannot access the sacraments any longer. This is exactly what I see the Bishop doing. He is not making promises, he is acknowledging the hurt and opening a space for discussion and, let’s hope, catechesis (and maybe a change of heart and life).
Many religious educators, priests, and religious, are rigidly opposed to restoring the traditional Christian teaching on indissolubility of marriage. The bishop could have chosen to address that rigidity
as well.
How do you know he doesn’t, in the right forum (ie not an open invitation letter to couples) ?