Literally, how DO you propose to a girl?

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When my former roomate asked his now wife to marry him, what he did was he got a relatively cheap stand in ring for popping the question. Then they picked a ring she liked out later at their leisure. She still wears the stand in from time to time though.

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When my husband proposed, it was kind of a spur of the moment thing, although we had been talking about it for a few months. He was talking about transfering to a different school and that he was planning on marrying me before he left. 😛 Not necessarily the most romantic proposal, and he didn’t have a ring yet. We looked at them together the next day. I wasn’t expecting to get a ring until Christmas then (he proposed on Thanksgiving), but he surprised me with a ring the next week. That was the romantic part. 🙂 We bought his ring when we bought my wedding band a few months before the wedding.
Some girls like rings that are a set with the wedding ring completing the set, so I would get an idea of what the girl wants before you buy it. Afterall she is going to wear it the rest of her life- she should like it. 🙂 Personally I wasn’t disappointed that there was no ring at the time of the proposal- I was just happy to get a proposal. 🙂
 
Well, in my case I kind of hinted at my husband to tell him what size of ring I wore early on (just in case 😉 ). The sad part is that apparently I was clueless to what size ring I wore (I always wore the same rings, so I never really went shopping for rings, and when I had bought the ones I owned, I had tried them on at the store, instead of buying them by size…) Luckily one day we went by a jewelery store and the lady measured my finger. I had given him a size that was 2 sizes larger than my actual size! Lol, I was shocked! Another day we spoke about the material we would like our wedding bands made of. This was all a while before we got engaged.

I wanted him to choose a ring on his own (and he did). I knew he had good taste, though. I love my ring, one diamond in the center and two smaller ones on the sides (it reminded me of 3 to get married).

I loved how he proposed too! He came up for a surprise visit (drove 802 miles). On his visit we went to the chapel of the Church where we met to pray a little (individually) in front of the Tabernacle. We were the only two people there. He proposed there (on two knees, he he)! Well technically, I answered “Of course!” before he could get a word out of his mouth, lol, but anyways, it was amazing!
 
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  • Enlist some spies among your wife’s girlfriends. Have them start asking what kind of ring she wants and have them report back to you.
  • Everytime you are walking in a mall past a jewlery store - Point in the window and ask “Would you like something like that ‘when the time comes’ ?”
    The proposal
Do it on a special day for the two of you (not a major holiday)

Pointers -

You will be nervous ! Let her know that you have a surprise for her.

Then get her a little gift that she might like. Present it at the very begining of the date.

This will release some tension for both of you and serve as a “red herring” to explain why you are acting so wierd.

Our story (the short version)

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Todd - Librarian

Rita - Poet

We met at an open Mic night held at a local church. Todd read a poem by G.K.Chesterton and sang a Blues Tune & played the harmonica. Rita read from her book of poetry. One of Todd’s friends asked Rita for her card and gave it to Todd to send her e-mails. A romance was then born.

WHEN WE GOT ENGAGED September 8, 2004

HOW IT HAPPENED

We attened the Mass of “Our Lady of Charity” at the American Airlines Arena at Miami Bayside.

We took a stroll to view the Biscayne Bay.

Todd sang a medley of Broadway showtunes - “Honeysuckle Rose”(Ain’t Misbehav’n), “I’ll know when my love comes along” (Guys & Dolls), “All I ask of You” (Phantom…)

Rita turned her head to put a waterbottle into her purse and as she turned herself around Todd brought out the ring and bent to one knee.

“Rita , Will you marry me?” She shook her head. - Cupping his hand to his ear - “I’m sorry I couldn’t hear that?” “Yes!”
 
Your girlfriend is a recent immigrant from Mexico, right? I would be sure to ask other Mexicans about the type of proposal she would be expecting, and what her likely reaction to your proposal would be.
 
When I proposed to my wife, I said “Blessed are you amoung women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb for it shall bear my children”.
 
ack said:
Your girlfriend is a recent immigrant from Mexico, right? I would be sure to ask other Mexicans about the type of proposal she would be expecting, and what her likely reaction to your proposal would be.
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Interesting that you knew that. Yes, she is, and that’s not a bad idea, thanks for suggesting it. We’ve talked about marriage though, so I’m pretty confident (not to have too much pride) that she will say yes. I will look into what type of proposal she might be expecting though, thru the expierence of her married girlfriends. Thanks:)

Andrew
 
Find a jeweler / jewelry store in your area that has an “understanding” return policy concerning engagement rings.

Do some snooping and find out what she likes, and if you can, slip one of her other rings on you finger and make a mental note of where it fits.

Most of the better shops know that guys are TOTALLY in the dark about wedding rings. Purchase a ring that you think she’ll like, muster up your courage and ask her. Present the ring.

After the emotions die down just tell her “This is what I thought you might like, but we need to go back to the store for a final fitting, or exchange it for what you & I like.”
 
A caveat, of course…be sure she’s the “jewelry” type! I know we’re in the minority, but I was one who didn’t want an engagement ring - period. My husband & I knew we were marrying well before he proposed, and we had a financial plan for our new family that was more important than a rock, to me. He did want me to have at least 1 diamond, so later on we chose a channel-set wedding band with several diamonds…this was a good compromise as it has the stones he wanted but it’s still very practical (I find that prong-set stones catch in my lace knitting, and I’d have to take it off to do the kennel chores, etc. That totally wouldn’t have worked for me!)

Bottom line, do what works for both of you! (A girlfriend of mine asked for & received an engagement CAMERA when the time came! They still use it!)

🙂
 
My boyfriend and I have gone looking at rings. I’m the one who’s not ready yet, mostly because I just don’t have time to plan a wedding (I’m in 5, but going to 9 in the next 13 months) and I’m working fulltime, and I’m getting my Masters Degree. I miss sleeping… and having money.

The one I fell in love with was at Alpha and Omega. It was $38,000 dollars (I didn’t mess up and add extra zeroes). I don’t expect to get that one. However, the jeweler gave us lots of good tips. Get a good quality diamond that’s just under a carat. Once it hits a carat the price goes sky high, and the quality doesn’t always match. No one can tell the difference between a .95 carat and a 1 carat. He also warned about certain settings cause they won’t sit flush against the wedding band and look sloppy.

My boyfriend know what I don’t want (pear cut … blech), and knows I want a platinum setting with a princess cut, but that’s about it.
 
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