Living With Fiancee's Parents?

[ahollars]

I take it none of you guys were ever in the military.

Short of sleeping and bathroom access, everything is shared by soldiers of the same unit. Same building, same laundry, same kitchen, same gathering areas, same cleaning chores, and same everything else. Avoiding each other’s bedrooms is overkill IMO, but if it’s a problem for you, then you know what to do. In-laws are nothing to be worried about, as long as you are prepared to move out when you are ready and do it over their objection if you must. If you can do that, then you are ready. I second telling your priest. It is her parents house, after all. If that’s not safe, then what is?

Accept the offer, be gracious, and never forget that Dad may have a 12-gauge shotgun with buckshot under his bed that he didn’t tell you about.

 

[dixieagle]

Because, if they get married and decide to live with her parents, we all know the world will come screeching to an end.

Extended families, multi-genrational families living under the same roof - is what is NORMAL in all the times that have come before and in much the rest of the world now.

You sould like a reasonable, responsible couple.

Sounds like you have a healthy set of inlaws to be and you are marrying into a good family.

This is a sensible answer.

There is NOTHING inherently sinful about the living arrangement you mention. Once you are married, the two of you, together, will have to choose your living arrangements, but that is neither here nor there. For now, if this works for all of you, and you are committed to chastity, the fact that you might be sharing the kitchen, etc., is simply not a big deal.

 

[dixieagle]

I’m going to be one of the few people on this thread to say that I don’t think there would be a problem at all in moving in with your future in-laws, either morally or in terms of family dynamics.

The wedding is close, the living quarters are separate, and you would be helping out your family. IMO it’s clearly NOT cohabitation, and especially with her family around I don’t think that temptations against chastity are going to be a huge problem (though, of course, always be careful). Since you’ll be living with her family and not just “shacking up,” I don’t think there is any risk of causing scandal, either.

Do you and your fiancee have clear plans about where you are going to live after the wedding? Perhaps it would be helpful to have those plans in place sooner, so that they can be clearly communicated to your future in-laws, if you really are worried about their becoming dependent on your contribution to the mortgage. If you’re planning on living with them after the wedding and continuing to help out, then there certainly isn’t a problem here.

Go with your gut. You know the family dynamics better than anyone here. If you’re really just not comfortable with it, then don’t do it.

More good, common sense!

 

[jwashu]

Because, if they get married and decide to live with her parents, we all know the world will come screeching to an end.

Extended families, multi-genrational families living under the same roof - is what is NORMAL in all the times that have come before and in much the rest of the world now.

You sould like a reasonable, responsible couple.

Sounds like you have a healthy set of inlaws to be and you are marrying into a good family.

Couldn’t have said it better!