Loneliness in a New Place

[OnAJourney]

I just recently moved to the Pacific Northwest from my home in the South and lately I’ve been feeling pretty lonely. I think I’m going to have a hard time meeting people at my new parish here because I’m generally very private and I keep to myself most of the time. Is there anything I can do to help with the loneliness here in my new home?

 

[Lou2U]

My advice is to push yourself out there and meet as many people as you can. If you meet people and they suggest going out for coffee or whatever, say yes and do it! The best way to combat loneliness is to work through it.

Are there any hobbies you enjoy? Why not look to see if there’s a group local to you who enjoy the same thing? Are there groups at your parish you could join?

Volunteering is also a great way to meet new people. Are there any causes you could get involved with?

I understand wanting to keep to yourself and being private. But if you want to settle and get rid of loneliness, the only way you can do that is by making yourself meet people. The more you give out, the more you’ll get back.

 

[Tis_Bearself]

Ask yourself whether it’s more important to you to keep your privacy and solitude, or whether it’s more important to get out there and meet people. Then plan your behavior accordingly.
Also, I wouldn’t put all my social eggs in the church basket. Try to meet people at as many places as you can, including your work, the grocery store, hobby and activity groups, wherever you enjoy spending time.

 

[Dan_Defender]

My advice is one step at a time. Start by focusing on one person. Just by going to Mass you will see there are a few people who are sort of the lay leaders, they know/greet everybody, they are involved in most ministries and so on. Pick one and approach him/her. They are the best to guide you as they are experienced with all sorts of personalities in the parish.