Lonely at Christmas Thread

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This is a thread for all of us who are far from our loved ones this Christmas.

My morning is flooded with Christmas Eve’s past. Serious health and financial reasons keep us from traveling to be with our elderly parents this year (we are both from the same home town). We have no grandchildren and our son will be working throughout Christmas. We will save him a seat at Mass just in case he can run over. Christmas will be very lonely and quiet.

My husband has serious health problems, I know there will be no gift for me. I’m an adult, I know it is not about gifts, but, still, they do symbolize so much and it feels less.

I am fighting jealousy, no envy, of those who have young kids and grand kids.

There have to be more CAFers who are fighting the blues today. Let us make some cocoa and have a virtual gift exchange?
 
Hi there. While I do not feel particularly lonely this Christmas, I have in the past. I understand the loneliness felt of not having kids. In my case, also not having a spouse yet, as much as I want to have a family. I live at home with family, but things are not as what I like them to be. I am also currently looking for work, and I hope my new year would be a good one.

At any rate, sending you a virtual hug and wishing you a joyous Christmas season, whatever the situation is like on your end.
 
Good morning! May the peace of Christ be with you!

We are lucky to have the kids nearby, but I feel for you at this time of year. It’s like we are in the duldrums - kids too old to be excited, no grandkids it’s sort of just bleh.
 
TheLittleLady I pray your son visits you tomorrow.
God bless.
His love is envious the Bible says in the OT. Maybe we get lonely around His celebrations He just wants us a bit to Himself.
I also pray your husband gets better in health.
I still haven’t got from Him what I asked for. But am hopeful.
💮💮💮
 
Prayers for you this season!
May you be at peace this season…
Rejoice, celebrate our Savior is born!
May you find happiness…in the Lord!

Our Father, Hail Mary, Glory Be, Fatima, AMEN!

I have my spouse of 36 years, I am alive, I am employed…we have no kids, but we are happy with the Lord!

I’m even out of likes here on CAF! But tomorrow is Jesus’ birthday! I rejoice!

Merry Christmas all!
 
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Here’s some :coffee: Because I couldn’t find coco.
Here’s some 🎁🎁🎁
Here’s some ❤️❤️❤️ And :hugs::hugs::hugs:
Wait i found some 🍫🍫🍫
And for anyone who ever wished for a pony …🐴

Merry Christmas and a God bless
 
Fighting the blues here too. Not really in good terms with my family and there’s no celebration here. Maybe I’ll just get some work done but bleh :confused:
 
Went to mass alone, the first time ever…but looking around thought of all there as a bigger family,the day gradually got better.The mood did pick up with family later in the day,back to me and the cats now .
Makes me more aware that there would be many feeling alone,sad,grieving…we just don’t see it .
God bless all here on CAF 😀🍬🎄🙏
 
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I pray for you little lady. I am new to this site and Catholicism, but I have found much peace since I started praying my rosary each day. I hope you find happiness today and always.
 
I hope your son makes it Littlelady.I wonder can your parents Skype with help?My parents are in their 80’s and are able to now Skype with my sister in another country,she’s a nun
 
I went to Church last night by myself. No one in my family wanted to come with me. At first I was a little depressed seeing all the families together and me by myself. But then I had a feeling that Mary was sitting in the empty pew ahead of me, she turned around at me and smiled. I knew then it wasn’t all about me, especially on Christmas. I was happy just to spend time alone with Mary and celebrate her joy.
 
sometimes being alone & quiet is a good thing…

on Christmas, i know that may be, on the surface, a tough pill to swallow

holiday over-involvement w/Family can be annoying & tedious

we should all just pray that the Holy Spirit puts us where we need to be…
 
brian_custer said what I was thinking also.

My family, at this point, is mostly expired.
However, even when they were alive, we often didn’t have the best Christmases because the emotional, and sometimes physical, expectations that family members put on each other at Christmas time can be very difficult and burdensome. I actually had more good times with my family at other times of the year when parents and in-laws were not dealing with their own memories of Christmases past, weren’t knocking themselves out trying to put on Hallmark holidays, and weren’t so emotionally invested in having their children all home on some particular night rather than out with their friends, on vacation elsewhere, or visiting “the other set of parents”.

There were many years when Christmas was a penance for me because of this, years when I felt compelled to have a few drinks every day to get through it - not to excess, but I am not an everyday drinker, more like a once every month or two drinker, so suddenly “needing” that glass of wine every day signifies something is way wrong - and years when my own emotional needs were definitely not being met. My dearest wish for Christmas was often just to go somewhere and take a long nap, or to have some time away from the pressure of the family. There were years when I ignored Christmas as much as possible because it was just one more Jenga brick on my already unstable pile of life responsibilities, rather than an enjoyable time. I really don’t like the ads and social media where young people carp about having to spend Christmas with their parents or extended family, because I think they shouldn’t be dissing on their families in public like that, but I can also totally understand why many of them feel that way.

At this point in my life, I have been able to turn Christmas (and Easter) back into mainly religious holidays, with a little bit of secular fun, but seeing them primarily as a time to be thinking about Jesus and going to Mass rather than putting the emphasis on gifts, family dinners, or celebrations has made those days much less stressful for me.

I hope everyone is able to have some type of enjoyable Christmas in their own way.
 
As long as God is with you, you are never alone.

God love and bless you and your husband this Christmas Day.
 
You just made a great prayer. Tell Our Father these same words and turn it into a loving and abandoning conversation with Him. Stretch it into a 10-15 minute family chat in the quiet of your home.

And offer the time and angst to the Infant Child as your own gift to Him, through the hands of Mary who is His Mother and your Mother.

Marvelous prayer you made.

Thank you and Merry Christmas to you, stretch ithe day to Epiphany. Ask out Lord to help you do this.
 
Thanks all.

I ended up spiking a fever yesterday, felt like something that was drug behind a city bus.

My guess is that viral whatever made things worse, prayed that it would be gone (DH health and all), ate half a pint of Phish Food and binge watched “Friends”.

This morning the fever is gone. Prayers for all of you today!
 
Late Christmas present for you @TheLittleLady 🎁🎁🎁🎁🎁

HAHA, just when you didn’t expect it 😂😂
 
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