Loosing faith please help

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I am loosing my faith. I grew up in an unstable family. I had faith always that God would help me have a better future. I Got married to a man who physically abused me. I lost hope. I lost my faith. I threw everything that reminded me of God. I know feel free. I feel less pressured. I would like to go back to my faith. But just thinking about praying makes me feel anger inside me. I want to start little by little. Anyone have any advice? Is there a saints medal i could maybe wear or a book i could read or maybe i can light a candle in my room? Something small that doesnt aquire much thinking. How do i stop this anger inside me? Im a stubborn person by the way. Also Im kind of scared because I have liked this feeling of freedom. Its something I have never felt before because of how extremely religious i was.
 
What you’re feeling is pretty normal actually. Being religious has a lot of obligations tied into it. A lot of rules and a lot of time you need to set aside stuff.

The freedom you’re feeling is a release from obligation. It’s a break from really needing to be responsible to something (in this case that something is your spirit). So it’s sort of like the freedom a guy feels when he quits a job that’s been giving him strain lately. Except in time he feels the effect of that later. Like when he can’t pay his bills anymore.

Well the same thing goes with what you’re facing. It’s freedom in a way? But it’s short-term gain for long-term pain.

I mean religion can be heavier at some times than others. It doesn’t always bring the peace and joy we crave because sometimes we don’t relax enough to let that flow through.

So I’d suggest you listen to soothing music. Something with a peaceful vibe that helps your heart to settle. Something that puts you into a praying mindset.

Check up some favorite hymns online or even just listen to something soft that just relaxes your heart.

Praying is spiritual exercise. So just like you don’t do well at the gym when your muscles are tense and your heart’s not in it? So too with prayer. You need to relax into it and let it refill your depleted spirit. You need to let down some of the shields over your heart that your recent experiences have made you put in place. You need to just feel willing again to be open.

I’ve been praying a novena of surrender lately. Maybe it might help you too.


Peace.
 
Go to Mass, don’t worry about prayer just yet. Just sit in Mass. once a week. Start this weekend. When you feel ready, find the confessional times.
 
If you want to wear a medal, I’d suggest a little Miraculous Medal of Mary.
I also think Lateran Basilica’s idea about sitting in Mass, or just sitting in church or in an Adoration chapel, is a good idea. If you can only sit there for 5 minutes and you have to leave, that’s fine. Just sit for as long as you can and then try to sit a little longer next time.
 
Go to mass, read some good books maybe something like Catholicism by bishop Robert Barron? (I haven´t read that one, but it seems be to good). Whenever you are ready - talk to the parish priest about it & maybe get some good advise on what to do from there.
 
We do not belong to this world, but merely passing through it. The pain and suffering that comes with being a Catholic in this world is tough, and sometimes can be overwelming. But if we reach Heaven, it’ll all be worth it.

Hell, on the other hand, will never be worth it, no matter what you do on Earth. You could be the richest, best looking person on Earth that has everything, but in death nothing is passed on.

Our Time of Earth must be used for God, or we will lose him forever. Once we pass through this world time ceases to exist. And when we face Jesus in the our day of judgement, what a fearful day, we need to make sure that we were not bad enough to be sent to hell, or we will never ever leave there.

God bless you!
 
Go to Confession. It is the sacrament of healing. Go to a good, kind, and holy priest. Go to Mass. Repeat. If you’ve suffered through physical abuse and a dysfunctional family, you may need therapy. God and His sacraments are here to boost us up in this difficult and sinful world. Hold on to your faith, even if it’s only a shred, for dear life. When you feel like you’re losing your faith, who do you think wants you to feel like that? It’s not God, that’s for sure.

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot. You are in my prayers.

For me, I’ve found that I’d rather have the most difficult day with God in my life and my faith than an easy one without.
 
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