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seeker63
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I unloaded a lot of baggage in the section on Sacraments last week. I was afraid of what board posters here would say, but I was answered with love and understanding, so I’ve decided to ask another question, but it belongs in this section.
One of the major problems of my spiritual life, something that has been eating away at me like a cancer for years and has really retarded my spiritual progress, is that I have great difficulty loving or even liking my fellow man. Some of it I’m sure is a projection of my own self-loathing and low self-esteem.
But I have seen many horrible things in my life and I cannot erase them from my mind. Forgiving and forgetting are great concepts, but since I have such an acute memory, it’s hard for me to put bad memories of the past behind. I tend to see the depths to which human beings can fall on their own, rather than notice the heights they can reach with God.
I know it’s not my place to judge others. But there is so much violence and cruelty and ignorance and filth in the world, I’ve come to the conclusion that most people, when you really get to know them, are pretty vile.
I’ll be in a city and encounter all sorts of grotesque people and wonder why on earth most of these people exist, what use do they serve? But of course it’s all a self-fulfilling prophecy–if the world is an ugly place to you, then everything you see will be ugly.
I’m even passively pro-abortion, but only because it prevents more wretched people from being brought into the world.
I hope I don’t sound crazy. A person doesn’t get this embittered overnight. A lifetime of bad experiences pile up, and if you’re helping with that piling, then it just gets worse a lot faster.
I should add that since September I’ve been on depression medication, and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. Either way, my terrible attitude towards my fellow man continues. And as I say this greatly interferes with my religious life. It’s hard to see the face of God in someone who annoys or disgusts you.
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One of the major problems of my spiritual life, something that has been eating away at me like a cancer for years and has really retarded my spiritual progress, is that I have great difficulty loving or even liking my fellow man. Some of it I’m sure is a projection of my own self-loathing and low self-esteem.
But I have seen many horrible things in my life and I cannot erase them from my mind. Forgiving and forgetting are great concepts, but since I have such an acute memory, it’s hard for me to put bad memories of the past behind. I tend to see the depths to which human beings can fall on their own, rather than notice the heights they can reach with God.
I know it’s not my place to judge others. But there is so much violence and cruelty and ignorance and filth in the world, I’ve come to the conclusion that most people, when you really get to know them, are pretty vile.
I’ll be in a city and encounter all sorts of grotesque people and wonder why on earth most of these people exist, what use do they serve? But of course it’s all a self-fulfilling prophecy–if the world is an ugly place to you, then everything you see will be ugly.
I’m even passively pro-abortion, but only because it prevents more wretched people from being brought into the world.
I hope I don’t sound crazy. A person doesn’t get this embittered overnight. A lifetime of bad experiences pile up, and if you’re helping with that piling, then it just gets worse a lot faster.
I should add that since September I’ve been on depression medication, and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. Either way, my terrible attitude towards my fellow man continues. And as I say this greatly interferes with my religious life. It’s hard to see the face of God in someone who annoys or disgusts you.
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