Hey Shibboleth:
I have read many of your posts in this and other threads with great interest and really appreciate your knowledge, sincerity and interest in matters of faith. I have limited time to participate, but I think you and I would have a lot to talk about. I’m a cradle Catholic who left the Church - and organized religion in general - in my teens for many of the standard reasons. I came back to Christ through an ELCA congregation that my then girlfriend, now wife, belonged to. We were happy, active members of that congregation for over 20 years until the Holy Spirit inexplicably called us both to the Catholic faith (long story!). I fought it like crazy, telling my wife I had “been there, done that”, but the more I studied the more in love I, and we as a family, became with the Church.
One thing that really knocked us for a loop early on in the process was learning that the ELCA does provide insurance coverage for abortions for its clergy and employees. It chooses to do so and is not tied to it by the insurance carrier. We had our pastor investigate this and he confirmed it to us. Now this was not the ultimate cause of our leaving, but I thought it was a great example of the kind of moral relativism that can occur when you have no real authority in a church.
God’s blessings to you, hopefully we can speak (as it were) more in the future.