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rocksta
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Is it wrong to marry someone with a different religion as you?
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dhgray
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If you mean Catholic to Protestant, nothing as long as they let you practive your faith.
If you mean Christian to non-Christian, there is a difference in phlosophies which will put a strain on the relationship until either one or both give up their religion.
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puzzleannie
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If you do you are attempting the most intimate relationship possible for humans with a pre-existing barrier between the two of you on the level of one of the most fundamental aspects of your identity–your definition and perception of your relationship with God. You are setting the stage for endless conflict and misunderstanding, and shutting yourselves off from the most potent and enriching sources of your unity.
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kage_ar
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Marriage has enough challanges without adding in different religious systems. There could be times in a marriage when you have nothing to keep you togehter, except your faith. If that faith is also a source of division, you are asking for trouble. Just find a nice Catholic boy 
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agaphe_10
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There are a lot of catholic guys but the question is what if you love someone from a different religion? Should one give up that love? A love that you didn’t find from another person with the same religion.Marriage has enough challanges without adding in different religious systems. There could be times in a marriage when you have nothing to keep you togehter, except your faith. If that faith is also a source of division, you are asking for trouble. Just find a nice Catholic boy
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bear06
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This is not against Church teachings unless the non-Catholic does not condone any children resulting from the marriage being raised Catholic.
It may not be wrong but it can pose problems down the line especially where children are concerned. Certainly it’s not a problem for all but it is a problem for many.
It may not be wrong but it can pose problems down the line especially where children are concerned. Certainly it’s not a problem for all but it is a problem for many.
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Feanaro_s_Wife
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I know it’s hard to understand, but just because you love someone it doesn’t mean that they are the one you should marry. If that were the case then none of us could be against gay “marriage”
…after all, they love eachother right? Or what if you love someone else’s spouse?
I think we need to take the time in prayer to try and discern if this is the man/woman that God has chosen for us. If it isn’t, but you go ahead and marry them anyway because you love them, then you are choosing to do your will, not God’s.
It is not wrong to marry someone of a different religion, but it is usually unwise.
When you look at what marriage means then you should really be striving to start out with as many things in common as possible. Trouble will still happen, but why set yourself up for it?
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agaphe_10
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If the couples aren’t gay, murderers, thief and both single. Everything is good and their only difference is the religion, Is it worth giving up? And if they give up, living a sad and miserable life is better?
1 Corinthians 13:1-3
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
1 Corinthians 13:1-3
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
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Bill_Buck
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The difference between living a happy and fruitful life and a sad and miserable life should not hinge on a relationship with one particular person, unless that person is Jesus Christ.
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Jay74
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I’m in a mixed marriage–I’m evangelical and my wife is Catholic. We discussed marriage, children, and faith in depth to make sure we are compatible. Here are some questions children might ask, and if answers are conflicting then there is trouble brewing:
Good luck.
- Who is Jesus? If one parent says “the Son of God who died for our sins” and the other says “Nobody”, there is a problem. For this reason, Christians should never marry anyone who doesn’t have faith in Jesus.
- What is the Bible? If one says “the Word of God” and the other says “Mythology”, there is a problem. Jews may answer this the same, but they woudln’t be refering to the New Testament.
- What happens when we die? If one says “God judges us, and we either go to heaven or hell”, and the other says “oblivion”, the child will definitely have mixed messages. It would be hard to be a parent who was a christian, whose child believed that behavior in this world doesn’t matter, because the other parent told them their fate is oblivion.
Good luck.
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Sola
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Feanaro's Wife:
Feanaro's Wife:
It is not wrong to marry someone of a different religion, but it is usually unwise.
This, too, I have to agree with. It is not wrong, but unwise.
Being in a mixed-faith marriage, I grieve at times for being alone in my faith and separated from the man I love so dearly in a way that, if we were of the same faith, would bring us closer and give us strength.
If I knew then what I know now…but then, I wasn’t really a Christian then, but still…
So very, very true. This is so hard to understand and not, IMO, taught to singles as much as it should be.
Feanaro's Wife:
It is not wrong to marry someone of a different religion, but it is usually unwise.
This, too, I have to agree with. It is not wrong, but unwise.
Being in a mixed-faith marriage, I grieve at times for being alone in my faith and separated from the man I love so dearly in a way that, if we were of the same faith, would bring us closer and give us strength.
If I knew then what I know now…but then, I wasn’t really a Christian then, but still…
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SphinxWinx
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I don’t post here much because I don’t really have anything to offer, but for this question I have to respond.
I don’t know if you’re already married or still just contemplating it, but if your sweetie is of another faith, don’t marry that person. I was an inactive Southern Baptist when I married my agnostic boyfriend, and now that I’m devoutly Catholic, we’re even farther apart. We’ve been married seven years now, and it’s getting harder and harder.
I agree wholeheartedly with one of the above posters (I’m paraphrasing now): Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you should marry him/her.
I really hate to sound negative, but I just wanted you to hear the voice of someone who knows from experience. Wait for a Catholic spouse. You’ll save yourself a lot of grief.
I don’t know if you’re already married or still just contemplating it, but if your sweetie is of another faith, don’t marry that person. I was an inactive Southern Baptist when I married my agnostic boyfriend, and now that I’m devoutly Catholic, we’re even farther apart. We’ve been married seven years now, and it’s getting harder and harder.
I agree wholeheartedly with one of the above posters (I’m paraphrasing now): Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you should marry him/her.
I really hate to sound negative, but I just wanted you to hear the voice of someone who knows from experience. Wait for a Catholic spouse. You’ll save yourself a lot of grief.
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DeniseR
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This is my own experience:
I was a nominal Catholic who married a nominal Lutheran. We considered marrying in either church at the time. We spoke with both pastors. He asked my priest if he needed to convert. My priest said he should not convert just so we could be the same religion but only if he truly felt the calling. We could be married in the Catholic Church but I had to promise to raise our kids Catholic and he should understand that and agree to that.
We spoke with his pastor and his pastor tried to convert me, called, dropped off literature, etc. He was bothered by that and said we should get married in the Catholic Church.
Seventeen years later he converted after I became stronger in my faith, prayed for his conversion, and tried to be a loving wife and a good example to him without trying to convert him. I simply would invite him to church with us occassionally and eventually he came and the rest is history.
Now this is my story and everyone has different personalities and circumstances. I would suggest you talk frankly with your boyfriend and see if he is open to you practicing your faith and see if you are willing to not pester him about converting.
My mom is a practicing Catholic and my dad is not any religion. He respects her faith and supports her going to church but shows no interest himself. I’m sure she prays every day for his conversion. My mom is a modern-day St. Monica. My brother is a modern-day Augustine (not yet a saint).
I believe it can work if there is mutual respect for one another. Remember, we are all on different stages of our faith journey. Be sure you don’t do anything to make him feel like you’re better than he is because you have God and he doesn’t. But most of all, be sure that he respects your faith in God and your practice in that faith and agrees to raise the kids Catholic. If so, you shouldn’t have a problem.
I was a nominal Catholic who married a nominal Lutheran. We considered marrying in either church at the time. We spoke with both pastors. He asked my priest if he needed to convert. My priest said he should not convert just so we could be the same religion but only if he truly felt the calling. We could be married in the Catholic Church but I had to promise to raise our kids Catholic and he should understand that and agree to that.
We spoke with his pastor and his pastor tried to convert me, called, dropped off literature, etc. He was bothered by that and said we should get married in the Catholic Church.
Seventeen years later he converted after I became stronger in my faith, prayed for his conversion, and tried to be a loving wife and a good example to him without trying to convert him. I simply would invite him to church with us occassionally and eventually he came and the rest is history.
Now this is my story and everyone has different personalities and circumstances. I would suggest you talk frankly with your boyfriend and see if he is open to you practicing your faith and see if you are willing to not pester him about converting.
My mom is a practicing Catholic and my dad is not any religion. He respects her faith and supports her going to church but shows no interest himself. I’m sure she prays every day for his conversion. My mom is a modern-day St. Monica. My brother is a modern-day Augustine (not yet a saint).
I believe it can work if there is mutual respect for one another. Remember, we are all on different stages of our faith journey. Be sure you don’t do anything to make him feel like you’re better than he is because you have God and he doesn’t. But most of all, be sure that he respects your faith in God and your practice in that faith and agrees to raise the kids Catholic. If so, you shouldn’t have a problem.
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Augustine
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If I may, also make sure that the other part agrees with Jesus’ teaching on the indissolubility of marriage.
God bless.
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