Marriage Enquiry

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I’m a Roman Catholic boy and I’m dating a Marthomite girl. Both of us are not willing to change our caste. Is it possible for us to get married since we are dating for the last 9years and cannot live a life without each other
 
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Any much formalities.? She’s not willing to change her caste because there exist 2 Marthomite priests in her family.
And for me,I was brought up in this be lives and traditions of Chatholic
 
A Catholic dating any sort of Protestant may request permission to marry. You meet with your priest and he will fill out the request to the Bishop.

Think long and hard about this, mixed marriages are not easy.
 
I believe that the children must be raised and instructed in the Catholic Faith too…
 
Think carefully. If both of you are not willing to give up something for marriage, is the foundation of your relationship strong enough to desire a life long marriage committment?

As a Catholic, you should have a Catholic marriage (which allows for a mixed marriage, with dispensation). Have a good start, because it is a choice of life long commitment.

Find out about potential problems that can arise from such mixed marriage. What about her family, how open they are to the idea of mixed marriage?

Once married, there would be no turning back, think about it. Both of you should reach into some understanding now in agreeing to things of common interest, which must be sorted out as both of you enter the marriage covenant.

God luck.
 
Learn as much as you can about the Marthomite religion before making any decisions.
 
You would have to get permission from your diocese and agree to raise your children int he Catholic faith.

I would seriously caution you against this though. Mixed marriages often do not turn out well.
 
Please speak to your priest.

From my past experience on this board, most people will caution you against a mixed marriage and say it does not work and tell you to break up. But I am in a mixed marriage for almost 25 years now, so obviously they can work for some people.

If you have been seeing this lady for 9 years I’d say that’s a strong suggestion of being committed to each other, but like I said…talk to your priest to find out what is required for a marriage, and if he has other thoughts on the matter.

God bless.
 
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I’d say the thing that makes this a bit more complex is the referral to her “caste”. From what I understand, intermarriage is rare between castes. It is a social construct that is deeper than even religion.

This would be deeper than mommy is Baptist and daddy is Catholic thing.
 
Sadly, the reality of such unions is that one of the spouse’s Faith will be compromised; no matter how rosy-painted mix religious marriages will force one person up against the wall, specially when the education of the children is concerned.

Romeo and Juliet was not really a romantic novel–it was a tragedy; yet, most people are sold on the idea of the great fight (“us against the world”) and the great few seconds of “unchained love.”

…then there are the super modernists that swear that all roads lead to God so just do you–these usually also subscribe to the notion that you can let your children grow up and decide what they want to believe and where they want to Worship… sadly, if we don’t teach children to walk, talk, and eat… they will starve in the middle of a supermarket!

Maran atha!

Angel
 
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