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My fiance’ and I are both Catholic. To be honest, I question the Catholic church and the people in it a lot. At the same time, I have no desire to find a new religion. I live in my fiance’s house. I moved in when he was doing work rotations and would be gone for 2 weeks at a time, and my roommate moved to Hawaii. I needed a place and he needed someone to watch his place while he was gone.
I do not feel guilty about living with him and I hate it when people try to make me feel guilty when I have a wonderful, very open and honest relationship with my future husband. To me it feels like they are trying to create problems that don’t need to be created. I never moved in to “try it out”. We both knew what our commitment level was. We attend mass every Sunday, and I ask God everyday to show me what I am supposed to do. We want the wedding ceremony to be near our families even though we live thousands of miles away from them it is very important to us. My family is constantly lecturing me about living with my fiance, and I appreciate their concern, but I don’t feel supported. I am one of 11 children and my parents have been married for 36 years. So there are a lot of people putting stress on us. They love the man I am going to marry as well and that is why they say they do it.
My question is, should I even try to get married in the Catholic church?I thought I wanted to, but now I just want to say forget it, we will get married somewhere else, a marriage is a marriage. and we know that means a commitment of a lifetime. That is why we are getting married after all.
I guess i am just confused right now. We both see the value in pre-marriage prep because we know this is the rest of our lives we are talking about. Is there anyone who has any good advice? Has anyone been in a similar situation and can give some insight either way? Thanks in advance.
I do not feel guilty about living with him and I hate it when people try to make me feel guilty when I have a wonderful, very open and honest relationship with my future husband. To me it feels like they are trying to create problems that don’t need to be created. I never moved in to “try it out”. We both knew what our commitment level was. We attend mass every Sunday, and I ask God everyday to show me what I am supposed to do. We want the wedding ceremony to be near our families even though we live thousands of miles away from them it is very important to us. My family is constantly lecturing me about living with my fiance, and I appreciate their concern, but I don’t feel supported. I am one of 11 children and my parents have been married for 36 years. So there are a lot of people putting stress on us. They love the man I am going to marry as well and that is why they say they do it.
My question is, should I even try to get married in the Catholic church?I thought I wanted to, but now I just want to say forget it, we will get married somewhere else, a marriage is a marriage. and we know that means a commitment of a lifetime. That is why we are getting married after all.
I guess i am just confused right now. We both see the value in pre-marriage prep because we know this is the rest of our lives we are talking about. Is there anyone who has any good advice? Has anyone been in a similar situation and can give some insight either way? Thanks in advance.