Marriage & the bible

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Can someone please tell me where in the bible or in scripture it says that if you do NOT get married in God’s sacred temple you will not go to heaven?
 
diggerdomer said:
No, because that’s not in the Bible.
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I didn’t think so…I have continually been nagged about getting married in the church and if I do not do so, I will be living and sin and will not go to heaven.

Thank you for clarification. 🙂
 
AmyMarie71 said:
I didn’t think so…I have continually been nagged about getting married in the church and if I do not do so, I will be living and sin and will not go to heaven.

Thank you for clarification. 🙂
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If you are Catholic, Canon Law applies. If you get married outside of a church building without proper dispensation, you have violated the required form of marriage and will have entered into an invalid marriage. Requirements for proper reception of the Sacraments are not just found in the Bible.
 
davidv said:
If you are Catholic, Canon Law applies. If you get married outside of a church building without proper dispensation, you have violated the required form of marriage and will have entered into an invalid marriage. Requirements for proper reception of the Sacraments are not just found in the Bible.
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Understandable, but Cannon Law was written by man and are man-made laws and not of scripture. I do not recall it being said therein the Holy Bible.

Again, thanks for clarification. I feel more relieved.
 
AmyMarie71 said:
Understandable, but Cannon Law was written by man and are man-made laws and not of scripture. I do not recall it being said therein the Holy Bible.
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Then you missed the part where Jesus tells the apostles that those who hear the apostles hear Jesus, and the part where Jesus gives the apostles the power to bind and loose.
Again, thanks for clarification. I feel more relieved.
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The apostles and their successors, the bishop were given authority to govern the Church here on earth. So, violation of Church law is considered violation of God’s law.
 
AmyMarie71 said:
Understandable, but Cannon Law was written by man and are man-made laws and not of scripture. I do not recall it being said therein the Holy Bible.

Again, thanks for clarification. I feel more relieved.
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If you’re Catholic you do not accept the Sola Scriptura heresy and accept the Church’s teachings as it is the Body of Christ here on Earth. The Church has the authority to make those decisions.
 
AmyMarie71 said:
Can someone please tell me where in the bible or in scripture it says that if you do NOT get married in God’s sacred temple you will not go to heaven?
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Amy:

That is the wrong question. Marriage is the sacrament where our relationship on earth mirrors the relationship of the Trinity, and the relationship of Jesus to his Church. If you are not in a sacramentally valid relationship, i.e. married by a priest, then you are living in sin in an adulterous relationship. Adulterers go to hell.

WHy wouldn’t you want your marriage blessed by a priest?
 
Marsha_Adams said:
Amy:

That is the wrong question. Marriage is the sacrament where our relationship on earth mirrors the relationship of the Trinity, and the relationship of Jesus to his Church. If you are not in a sacramentally valid relationship, i.e. married by a priest, then you are living in sin in an adulterous relationship. Adulterers go to hell.

WHy wouldn’t you want your marriage blessed by a priest?
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Both me and my fiance’ are non-practicing but are considering going back to the church. We are getting married in a civil ceremony this December but if we do decide to go back to the church, the decision will not be made lightly (especially if we are to bear children). We are looking into possibly getting our marriage convalidated “IF” we decide to go back to the church. Again, decisions not to be taken lightly.
 
AmyMarie71 said:
Understandable, but Cannon Law was written by man and are man-made laws and not of scripture. I do not recall it being said therein the Holy Bible.
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But the power to bind and loose IS SCRIPTURAL, hence the requirements the Church places on the faithful for marriage is from God, not man.
 
AmyMarie71 said:
Both me and my fiance’ are non-practicing but are considering going back to the church. We are getting married in a civil ceremony this December but if we do decide to go back to the church, the decision will not be made lightly (especially if we are to bear children). We are looking into possibly getting our marriage convalidated “IF” we decide to go back to the church. Again, decisions not to be taken lightly.
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Well, I wish you well. Six months might be long enough to seriously consider returning to the Church. It might be a nice way to celebrate both your marriage and your return to the Church by having the wedding there. Maybe in a side chapel, if you weren’t planning on a big ceremony (civil ceremony always connotates small to me, but I could be wrong.)
 
AmyMarie71 said:
Both me and my fiance’ are non-practicing but are considering going back to the church. We are getting married in a civil ceremony this December but if we do decide to go back to the church, the decision will not be made lightly (especially if we are to bear children). We are looking into possibly getting our marriage convalidated “IF” we decide to go back to the church. Again, decisions not to be taken lightly.
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What is holding you and your fiance from deciding to returning to the Church?
 
AmyMarie71 said:
Both me and my fiance’ are non-practicing but are considering going back to the church. We are getting married in a civil ceremony this December but if we do decide to go back to the church, the decision will not be made lightly (especially if we are to bear children). We are looking into possibly getting our marriage convalidated “IF” we decide to go back to the church. Again, decisions not to be taken lightly.
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I hope you both come home 🙂

Remember if you’re open to children, you might be expected to get your marriage convalidated (or start heading in that direction) before those children receive sacraments…

on the other hand, if you’re not open to children, your marriage can’t be convalidated 🤷

Congratulations on your engagement.
 
NotWorthy said:
What is holding you and your fiance from deciding to returning to the Church?
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Being open to procreation and having children.

I am not against it per-se’ but the way the church describes it is not realistic. I am an older woman in my early 40’s and this is going to be my first (and hopefully ONLY) marriage. If I believe that I am not medically sound to have children and the church thinks otherwise just on teaching alone, then yes I have a problem with it. What the church is saying is that they do not care what your doctor says, wether you have one ovary or if you have cancer…if you can get pregnant then do so and if you do not, then you are in sin.

If I am wrong please correct me.
 
The Church doesn’t say that you must get pregnant to get married. I mean, sheesh, you can’t put a gun to your womb and demand that it produce! 🙂

The Church says that married people must be open to children. However, the Church also says that, for any serious reason, a married couple can avoid having sex at times when the woman might get pregnant. (Those reasons you listed are indeed serious.) Natural Family Planning today is backed by up-to-date medical knowledge, and it’s reasonably useful both to those trying to get pregnant and those not.

Obviously this is something you’d want to spend some time investigating, and you’d probably want to talk to someone really knowledgeable about this stuff. (Especially since you’re older and would have special circumstances.) If nothing else, you’ll probably pick up some interesting facts about the workings of your body, and that’s always useful.

Anyway, good luck!
 
PS – I forgot to say why Canon Law is all for Catholics getting married in church.
  1. To make sure that everybody knows you’re married, so that both parties have a legal leg to stand on.
In the old days, couples could marry each other without any witness and have it be a legal and religiously valid marriage. (The ministers of marriage are the bride and groom; the priest witnesses and calls down blessings.) Problem was, people were always changing their minds afterwards and then claiming that the marriage never happened and that their spouse was lying about its existence. The registration of civil ceremonies has a similar purpose.
  1. To make it more evident that marriage is a holy Sacrament, founded by God in Eden to make couples one, and that marriage is not a dry legal partnership contract or a slave sale.
  2. To make sure that the couple does indeed marry each other sacramentally. (That’s also why priests ask all those questions during marriage preparations.)
  3. To shower special blessings on marriages in addition to the Sacrament.
There are other good reasons that Canon Law has all Catholics marrying in a church, but those are the ones I know about.
 
Mintaka said:
PS – I forgot to say why Canon Law is all for Catholics getting married in church.
  1. To make sure that everybody knows you’re married, so that both parties have a legal leg to stand on.
In the old days, couples could marry each other without any witness and have it be a legal and religiously valid marriage. (The ministers of marriage are the bride and groom; the priest witnesses and calls down blessings.) Problem was, people were always changing their minds afterwards and then claiming that the marriage never happened and that their spouse was lying about its existence. The registration of civil ceremonies has a similar purpose.
  1. To make it more evident that marriage is a holy Sacrament, founded by God in Eden to make couples one, and that marriage is not a dry legal partnership contract or a slave sale.
  2. To make sure that the couple does indeed marry each other sacramentally. (That’s also why priests ask all those questions during marriage preparations.)
  3. To shower special blessings on marriages in addition to the Sacrament.
There are other good reasons that Canon Law has all Catholics marrying in a church, but those are the ones I know about.
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Thank you. I was always satisfied with the reason, “Because the Church says so!”

But admittedly, that doesn’t make for very good apologetics!
 
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