Men are bombarded daily with highly charged images of beautiful, highly made up, physically fit, women on television, magazines and movies. Good men must wear blinders if he is to avoid this assault. The mind, which controls the male sexual machinery of even the good man gets convinced that his beloved bride of 40, 50, 60, 70 plus years of age no longer appears sexually attractive. This occurs without us even knowing it.
Ahhhh… never fear! The pharmaceutical industry is here! $$$
There is a natural slowing down of the sexual fires as the WAY of expressing our love for each other shifts from the hot, passionate, hormone driven, hardbodied youthful sex to a deeper, intellectual, emotional, self-sacrificing, (not necessarily always sexual) prayerful, intimate communion with one another. Both should be present at the outset of marriage, with shifting emphasis toward the latter as the marriage matures.
This disgusting sex saturated society has convinced us that if we aren’t doing it like rabbits until we are 80 years old there is something wrong with us.
It would be interesting to see what would happen if these men who are using Viagra were to avoid all sexually charged images for a while. Chances are their bride will once again spark the old sexual machinery of most men into action, provided she do her part.
Ladies can help too by taking good care of themselves by watching their weight, putting on a little makeup once in a while, keeping themselves clean and well groomed. Many of you spent hours making yourselves look nice when you were dating then stopped after the kids came along and the duties of family life took over.
Those images in the media cannot possibly compete with the average, cheerful, confident well groomed 50 year old housewife who takes decent care of herself because you gals are real and the images are not. Nothing on the face of God’s creation is more beautiful to the eye. Don’t underestimate yourselves ladies. This isn’t about pride and lust, it’s about passionate, powerful, romantic physical intimacy within sacramental marriage the way God intended.
Sure, after 25 years of marriage my wife has put on a little weight, and there are a few gray hairs (
I caused them) and sags here and there. That’s nature! But when I see her made all made up and dressed nice, I see her natural physical beauty and my pulse starts to quicken.
Isn’t it curious that revenue from Viagra type medications have skyrocketed at the same time porn consumption has exploded in this country? But as I said earlier, even good men who DON’T look at that garbage are assaulted daily with immodest imagery that can compete with …“spousal arousal”
Granted, some men really do have a physical problem. My guess is that most do not. Guard your eyes like a mother hawk for a while and forget the Viagra. Give it a few weeks, take your wife out on a “date”,bring her home, put on a little music, maybe a bottle of wine and see what happens.
