Well for openers we should never adore Mary. We reserve our adoration for the Lord. There are many reasons why we honor her as first among the saints, as when we confess our sinfulness at Mass we say, *"*I ask Blessed Mary, ever virgin, all the angels and saints, and to you, my brothers and sisters, to pray for me to the Lord our God.”
We ask all the saints, and our brothers and sisters to pray for us, but we ask Mary first, because she is the only creature who was born without sin and remained without sin throughout her life, because she is the Lord’s mother, and because the Lord has given her to us as our spiritual mother.
Other arguments can be made that are more theological, such as the fact that she carried Our Lord in her womb, and so is the like the Ark of the Convenant. This is why we call her the Mother of God, not to honor her but to profess the divinity of Christ.
In the tradition of the kings of the Davidic Line, the queen mother sat at the right had of the King and was the most powerful interssor in the kingdom. We accept Christ as our King, and we honor His mother as the Queen Mother, and so we ask her to pray on our behalf.
We honor John, David and all the saints, but none is as worthy or as special as Mary, Mother of God.
In my every day life I pray to Mary a great deal. I pray the Hail Mary whenever I am faced with a temptation, or an uninvited thought enters my mind. I say the Angelus prayer in the morning and the evening, sorry I can never get it done at noon. I pray a Rosary every day, for an end to abortion. The mysteries of the Rosary are centered on the life of Christ, but the Hail Mary prayer is a framework for meditation. We ask Mary to help us to meditate on the Christ. In my eveing prayers, I say the Prayers of the Legion of Mary, which includes Mary’s Magnificat (Luke). It would be fair to say that I call on Mary quite a bit. I ask her help, but I adore the Christ. I adore Him when I receive the Eucharist at Mass (most days) and when I visit the Adoration Chapel (most days). I adore Him because He is the Lord of Lord’s and the King of Kings, and I honor His mother, the most perfect of all His creatures.
I hope this thoughts are helpful to you.
Charliemac