Mass and Girls

[Sea_Bass]

I have a question. Is it ok to ask a girl out after Mass? I always feel that it is somewhat wrong. To be fair, I do not go to Mass with the intention of finding a date, but if I see a girl that I’m interested in, is it ok to meet her, strike up a conversation after Mass and then asking her out, if the conversation goes well? I feel that there is something wrong with this.

Also, what are some ways to meet more Catholic girls? I want to get involved with more groups, but I’m currently in college and live in a college town. So the Church I go to is mostly college students and the groups tend to be made up cliques…

 

[lenni]

I have a question. Is it ok to ask a girl out after Mass? I always feel that it is somewhat wrong. To be fair, I do not go to Mass with the intention of finding a date, but if I see a girl that I’m interested in, is it ok to meet her, strike up a conversation after Mass and then asking her out, if the conversation goes well? I feel that there is something wrong with this.

Also, what are some ways to meet more Catholic girls? I want to get involved with more groups, but I’m currently in college and live in a college town. So the Church I go to is mostly college students and the groups tend to be made up cliques…

hey sea bass…
to me it seems fine to ask a girl out after mass.
however, if your going to mass solely for the intention of finding a date. i would probably tell you that you need not to look at any girl but to start deepening your relationship with God. but since thats not your case - just disregard the above sentence.
but on the whole, it’s not a sin, i actually knew some1 in a very similar sort of situation. However, they did not eventually get married to this person, but he attempted to meet her through that means.

now answering the last paragraph - places to meet nice single catholic women.
well, i would firstly try a church youth group (thats how 3 people i know, met their future spouses and are married now), umm…xt3.com has a singles page, catholicsingles.com, or the other alternative is just to wait it out till 2011 and go to WYD in madrid. like iv said in a similar post - there are plenty of single catholic women there. lolz…

well i hope that helps in some way…

• Lenni

 

[DebChris]

After Mass is a great time to meet people. Of course one of those people could be a girl with whom you strike up a conversation.

 

[mariyka]

That’s how my husband and I met, 37 years ago.

 

[PaulinVA]

My wife and I met at the Catholic Student Center at college.

However, I found in my dating experience (from the last century) that you never really find anyone when you are “on the prow”. Just get involved in a group or two at the local parish, and just enjoy being busy and participating in the life of the Church. If you meet someone, you meet someone.

A lot of people I know met the spouses when they weren’t really looking.

 

[DebChris]

My wife and I met at the Catholic Student Center at college.

However, I found in my dating experience (from the last century) that you never really find anyone when you are “on the prow”. Just get involved in a group or two at the local parish, and just enjoy being busy and participating in the life of the Church. If you meet someone, you meet someone.

A lot of people I know met the spouses when they weren’t really looking.

Agreed.

 

[puzzleannie]

I , but I’m currently in college and live in a college town. So the Church I go to is mostly college students and the groups tend to be made up cliques…

I should think asking anyone out to breakfast or lunch after Mass would be the rule rather than the exception in a college type setting. your campus ministry is also a great way to connect with people who share your faith, and if friendships develop–our YM left campus ministry for a higher paying job at the university when their second child was born–and they had met as students in the CM activities. also find out there or on diocesan website or parish bulletin what young adult activities, retreats etc.are planned by the diocese. We are coming up on our 3rd annual YA event. never forget friendships based on mutual interests and shared faith can blossom to more. Met my DH at a college youth event for Catholic high schools.