Masturbating a sin? Sex before marriage a sin too? Why?

[LocalKidFromTheBlock]

So I’m a practicing catholic, I got to church every Sunday and I know its a mortal sin but I don’t understand why? Like why is pleasuring myself so wrong. Why does god give me these urges? If its so wrong why does everyone that I know do it ( People who are also religious and there religious beliefs say it is wrong as well.)? I think its a very normal thing to do and I don’t understand why I would go to hell for something so normal and practically innocent. Don’t get me wrong I want to go to heaven and see my family but to be honest I don’t think that me masturbating alone at night to relieve some stress and relax through the week. I’ve tried to quit but its become habit to do it after a long days work or have stressful day. I don’t really see why God would have me discover these things and have these urges. I’ve been praying and viewing lots of other people who say its wrong and others who say its perfectly normal and I shouldn’t feel guilty and depressed for doing those things If someone out there with a lot of knowledge about this stuff could give me some insight that would be wonderful.

I don’t understand why I have to wait to be married to show affection for the person that I love? Like why should I have to wait for something when I could have sex with the person that I’m in a relationship now. I’ve been praying and viewing lots of other people who say its wrong and others who say its perfectly normal and I shouldn’t feel guilty and depressed for doing those things. I’ve been praying to god to help me with these things but I can’t fully comprehend the concept of why those things are such a big deal. If you could please respond help me that would be wonderful.

 

[Irishmom2]

How old are you?

 

[Kei]

The ends of sexual reproductive system is sex, open to life.
The sexual act is a most holy act, one in which you give your all to another and create life. It is not for cheap kicks and thrills.
So, masturbating is very selfish and innately disordered.
“But it’s common”
So is lying. But, lying is wrong as well.
The proper ordered way to use these things are sex. Your passion is not inherently bad. it is good when used in good purpose: sex within marriage.

You say you can’t even stop,yet you ask why it’s wrong?! It’s got you chained up, but you don’t realize that it’s trying to make you it’s slave?

The good news is freedom is in Jesus Christ. Pray for Grace to avoid the sin, pray the Rosary daily, picture the Crucifixion.

Sex is not something to take lightly. It is a powerful driving force and with great power comes great responsibility.

 

[KidFromBlock]

So lets say Im married the only time that me and my wife should have sex is to pro create?

 

[Kei]

It should be open and ordered to that end.
That means that the
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ejaculation must be vaginal. Saints have written that other types of sexual intercourse are inherently immortal even if the end is in the ejaculate ending in vaginal intercourse, but the Church has not defined it as such. So no sexual activity is allowed unless it ends in the male ejaculating into the vagina.

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This also means no birth control or contraceptives for the purpose of birth control.
So, you should be open to procreation.

 

[LocalKidFromTheBlock]

I am currently 19 years of age

 

[chieft]

If your properly married, consummation is expected and blessed. You must also be prepared for children. You sound like you may need some guidance from your priest.

As an un married youth, the temptation is strong. Offer your abstinence up as a sacrifice to God (with a capital G ). You will get stronger. The Lord will be pleased with this act of self control, respect and love as it takes strength. An act of your will.

 

[stuartbrianhenlis]

I’d like to ask a hypothetical question about marital sex:

What if the female partner (read wife) chooses not to have children. What then?

 

[drac16]

I don’t necessarily believe that God sends people to Hell for masturbating. He may do it to someone who perpetually lusts, but not necessarily because of masturbating. There are better ways to spend your time than masturbating, like fasting and prayer. I don’t see it as a good argument, to say “Well, this makes me feel good, therefore it’s OK!”. If I get pleasure from going to a mall and cracking someone’s skull in half with a hammer, surely it must be OK to do, right?

Obviously not. The point I’m trying to make is that there is a purpose for our genitals and there is a purpose for hammers. Genitals are there to reproduce and hammers are there to hammer down nails. Masturbating was never the purpose that God gave to genitals; if He did, believe me, the Scriptures would have mentioned it.

To appeal to the fact that lots of people do it doesn’t hold water, either. Jesus said, in Matthew 7, that narrow is the gate that leads to eternal life and those who find it are few. It doesn’t matter if you have a group of friends that masturbate. Numbers don’t bring safety-- truth brings safety. Believe me, I know how addictive masturbation is. I fall into it from time to time. However, I do it much less often than I used to. What the Holy Spirit did for me, He will do for you if you believe and fight.

The first thing you need to do is to guard your gaze. If you’re at a book store, don’t go down the magazine aisle-- you have to avoid looking at women [on the covers] that are wearing nothing but swimsuits. When you’re watching TV and a Victoria’s Secret ad comes on, immediately look away from the screen. If you let your eyes wander and you start lusting, it’s eventually going to take you by the throat and throw you down into submission. What we look at matters.

You have to go to war against masturbation. There will be days where you’ll fall, but you’re going to get back up and advance. I support a married man and woman masturbating each other, though. If a man likes to stimulate his wife by using his hand or vice versa, I’m not going to jump in there with a whistle and call a foul.