masturbation addiction HELP!!!

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I have had a masturbation addiction for like 8 years. I am a Teen. I pretty much go to Confession weekly and I always fall in the same sin. I am getting scared that one day I will be refused absolution. I don’t want to fall into despair.HELP!!!

I have a nervous disorder that makes me prone to masturbation because it is something that relieves me of my anxiety.

I also have a habit of looking at random women driving cars in the streets because it turns me on with an arousal.

I am getting sick of confessing the exact same sins for years.
 
I have had a masturbation addiction for like 8 years. I am a Teen. I pretty much go to Confession weekly and I always fall in the same sin. I am getting scared that one day I will be refused absolution. I don’t want to fall into despair.HELP!!!

I have a nervous disorder that makes me prone to masturbation because it is something that relieves me of my anxiety.

I also have a habit of looking at random women driving cars in the streets because it turns me on with an arousal.

I am getting sick of confessing the exact same sins for years.
I can only imagine that you pray about it. Maybe you should try to meditate on the goodness of God and the power that he can give you.
 
I have struggled with the same thing as well, beginning before I understood it was a sin. I also have OCD that tends towards addictive tendencies, and I understand the anxiety relief. Here’s a couple tips that have helped me with my struggles.
  1. My confessor once told me that “there are some evils that you have to face head on and combat, but when it comes to sins of the flesh, you run!” It goes for any occasion of sin, but particularly this one, actively avoid things that might lead towards this sin. Maybe less T.V, or something like that, whatever personally leads towards it for you.
  2. The random women driving by, are not random women, but created beloved children of God. Try to respect the love that God has for them, and treat them in that regard
  3. Keep a crucifix or rosary with you, or in sight of where this sin often occurs (bedroom, or wherever), and when the temptation gets uncontrollably strong, just grab tight onto the cross or beads with both hands and pray pray pray.
Most importantly, pray and read scripture regularly, especially as temptations grow. The more the word of God (or to God) are flowing through your head, the easier it will be to choose him in the toughest times.

If you want/need to talk about it more feel free to send me a personal message, we could help to hold each other accountable if you are interested.
 
please also do a search here on this topic there are many many many such threads.
 
When you see an attractive woman, say this prayer: “how lovely is your dwelling place, Lord Almighty God.”

Also set a goal for how long you can go without masturbating (Don’t do it for, say, 3 days). But keep setting a new goal every time that you reach the next one, don’t fall back into the sin.

Another strategy, on the advice of Jason Evert, is to fast. If you can control your appetite, you can control your urges.

And as always, pray, pray, PRAY!

I used to have this problem and I’m just now getting over it. I know how you feel.
 
By all means pray, but don’t JUST pray.

For any addiction that needs to be beaten, one has to make material changes in the areas of our lives that facilitate our means of feeding the addiction.

In your case, you need to remove yourself from the occasion of sin.

This means the following:

Remove all pictures of sexy women from your private spaces - your dorm room if you’re at college, your bedroom at home.

Remove and delete all internet links to porn. Remove any saved files (be they pictures, videos, whatever).

If you are using your computer for improper purposes, make sure you only use it in public areas where you would not wish to be seen looking at stuff you would be ashamed for your grandmother to see.

If you have particular times of weakness during the day, make sure you’re reliably occupied for those times.

Masturbation isn’t relieving your anxiety… it’s exacerbating it.

If anxiety is a really big problem then you might consider therapy. Perhaps your school has a counsellor you could turn to? It’s not unusual for teens to be anxious about all sorts of things. It’s in your genes!

If you don’t have a counselling service to turn to, try identifying the triggers for your anxiety. See if there are ways in which you can alleviate or avoid them. For the anxiety itself, try restful music and meditation exercises. You can combine prayer and meditation by considering aspects of God and Jesus’ life. It’s quite easy to become deeply absorbed in a particular aspect and it can be both relaxing as well as spiritually uplifting and strengthening.

In the meantime, don’t worry about the priest refusing to absolve you. He’s not allowed to. Each time you come with an open heart to confession you are guaranteed the absolution and forgiveness of Christ that is the priest’s job to impart. Explain, if you need to, the compulsive aspects and how you’re struggling. Your priest shouldn’t deny you the sympathy you need. And if he did, you’d have a good case with the Bishop 🙂
 
I have had a masturbation addiction for like 8 years. I am a Teen. I pretty much go to Confession weekly and I always fall in the same sin. I am getting scared that one day I will be refused absolution. I don’t want to fall into despair.HELP!!!

I have a nervous disorder that makes me prone to masturbation because it is something that relieves me of my anxiety.

I also have a habit of looking at random women driving cars in the streets because it turns me on with an arousal.

I am getting sick of confessing the exact same sins for years.
TO: Florida123

From JAW642 on 08/15/2010

Florida123,

You are not the only male who struggles with the addiction or habit of masturbation.

Do you masturbate primarily at night? Can you pretty much control your sexual urges during the day?

Semi-sleep or being in a sleep mode or restful state, means that your conscious mind is not and can not be FULLY conscious, because you are falling asleep and losing consciousness.

Please click on my Reply # 07 to Craisin in “ mortal sin? semi-sleep impurity ”

forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?p=6952365#post6952365

Also, Please read and STUDY the following essay by Fr. Harvey.

Masturbation
Overcoming the Masturbation Habit

couragerc.net/PIPMasturbation.html

Fr. Harvey presents here an essay entitled, “The Pastoral Problem of Masturbation.” From this article you will come to understand the root causes of and issues surrounding the masturbation habit.

From JAW642 on 08/15/2010

 
I have had a masturbation addiction for like 8 years. I am a Teen. I pretty much go to Confession weekly and I always fall in the same sin. I am getting scared that one day I will be refused absolution. I don’t want to fall into despair.HELP!!!

I have a nervous disorder that makes me prone to masturbation because it is something that relieves me of my anxiety.

I also have a habit of looking at random women driving cars in the streets because it turns me on with an arousal.

I am getting sick of confessing the exact same sins for years.
Hi Buddy,

I don’t think that anyone will dispute if I say that you are going through a tough time. This addiction is not an easy one to get out of. If you want to seriously grow out of this self killing( psychologically and physically) you have to take some bold steps and be ready to scarifies few things in life. But trust me, you will feel good about yourself.

1-Avoid spending time on internet.Use it only for what you must.
2-Avoid as much TV as possible and page 3 kinda magazines.
3-DO NOT SLEEP without saying the rosary and Chaplet of St Micheal.

You have to understand if you are thinking you can get over it with your own strength, you already spent 8 years thinking the same. Now stop trying because you cannot do it yourself.

Anytime during the day, when you have free time ( which is the cause of all these habits) close your eyes, think that Jesus is next to you holding your hand. And talk to him, tell him that you are weak and imperfect and you want to stop it.Ask him to understand you, for He was True man and True God, he lived just like you and me. and pray …pray…pray…

When I had the same trouble, I used to keep doing the prayer to St Micheal. May be 50 times, or 60 times during the day. It helps a lot.

Believe and accept that only God can help you with it and spend time in Prayer and reading Bible.

Pray that you will be given the grace to overcome it.

Joe
 
Don’t be to rough on yourself. Use the Sacrament of Reconciliation as much as you need to.

Sex is a potent type of self medication that can and does become addictive.

Look at your cycle. You start in a state of Sanctifying Grace. You have impure thoughts, you act out on them, you have remorse and guilt, you go to confession. After a time, you have the beginning sexual thought that has always lead to acting out. A never ending circle. It can only be interrupted at the thought stage.

The Priest can only forgive, he cant miracle the cycle away. It takes work. Hang in there.
 
I wish I knew you, I have the same addiction, so it would be nice if we could work it out together! I gave up impure images but still I feel so guilty, especially because I fantasize about boys, and boys I know, innocent friends… It also began to affect my body. I think I had early puberty because of the hormones I unleashed, and I can tell my genitals, my muscles and my right arm look slightly, well, ugly. God bless your way out!
 
I’m in the same situation. I started praying the 9-1-1 (as Fr. Corapi calls it): 9 Memorares, 1 Rosary, 1 Divine Mercy Chaplet. I went to Confession last Saturday because I wanted to end these Sins of the Flesh once and for all. However I ended up slipping and falling into sin again. I hate being in sin but these sins are just so hard to overcome! Please pray for me.
 
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