Meaning of honor thy father and thy mother

[Chistian-ity]

Is breaking any of the ten commandments mortal sin? If so, is it a mortal sin to disrespect your parents? If so, how can one perfectly respect their parents, is it ok to haggle if you can change their mind? What is considered not respecting your parents, and when is it mortal?

 

[Vico]

Is breaking any of the ten commandments mortal sin? If so, is it a mortal sin to disrespect your parents? If so, how can one perfectly respect their parents, is it ok to haggle if you can change their mind? What is considered not respecting your parents, and when is it mortal?

There are three things to observe: obedience and respect and caring for them when necessary.

Catechism

2217 As long as a child lives at home with his parents, the child should obey his parents in all that they ask of him when it is for his good or that of the family. … But if a child is convinced in conscience that it would be morally wrong to obey a particular order, he must not do so. … Obedience toward parents ceases with the emancipation of the children; not so respect, which is always owed to them. …

2218 The fourth commandment reminds grown children of their responsibilities toward their parents . As much as they can, they must give them material and moral support in old age and in times of illness, loneliness, or distress.

 

[1ke]

Is breaking any of the ten commandments mortal sin?

A person can commit either a venial sin or a mortal sin against any of the commandments. It depends on the sin.

If so, is it a mortal sin to disrespect your parents?

Maybe. Maybe not. This depends on the actual situation, the age of the child and their understanding of sin.

If so, how can one perfectly respect their parents,

Well, practice makes perfect so be respectful and cultivate the practice of the virtues towards parents and others in authority.

is it ok to haggle if you can change their mind?

Negotiating isn’t a sin. But if a parent has said no to something and isn’t open to changing their mind, don’t pester them. Be gracious in accepting their decision

What is considered not respecting your parents, and when is it mortal?

Something to bring up with your priest so he can counsel you.

 

[TheLittleLady]

You honor your parents by not dis-honoring them.

Treat them the way you want your future children to treat you. If you are a minor, obedience to your parents is required!

 

[Chistian-ity]

Is it ok when you believe you are following God’s will but in doing so you must abandon your parents will for example? The authority of parents is rather great but the authority of God is on a whole other level, so that should take priority. But sometimes it’s hard to discern whether or not what you did was indeed God’s will or just your own. In that case would it be a sin for dishonoring your mother if it sprouted from your own desires , or is it not because of the intention of the sin?

Sorry if that question was kind of redundant.

 

[1ke]

If you are a minor, obey your parents.

If you are an adult, you owe them respect but not obedience.

 

[Timeflies2me]

Depends. Again, honor thy mother and father. That phrase in itself says alot, we treat our parents on a different level than say for example our friends. Sometimes our parents can be totally wrong, but doesn’t justify to point it out in a prideful or devious manner. If God is pointing you towards something, it will come by his will and he will show you. Not really an answer to the main issue im sure, but just my two cents.

EDIT: basically what 1ke said above. hard to do sometimes

 

[Londoner]

The way it was explained to me was that the original Hebrew really has the meaning, in idiomatic English, “Do them proud”. Thus, as I understand it, this has less to do with respect and obedience and more to do with the whole manner in which you live your life. You should live your life in a manner which brings honour upon your parents.

 

[Jen7]

If this is a big issue for you, you may want to seek out a counselor. Some parents use the 4th commandment as an excuse. You don’t need to be a complete doormat. But the particulars of any case problably take time and many conversations to hash out.

 

[Freddy]

If you are a minor, obey your parents.

If you are an adult, you owe them respect but not obedience.

You actually owe them all the respect that they deserve. As someone said, treat them as you would like to be treated by your children. But only if they treat you as you would treat your children.

 

[Jen7]

You actually owe them all the respect that they deserve. As someone said, treat them as you would like to be treated by your children. But only if they treat you as you would treat your children.

Fascinating distinction! But if they don’t treat you as you’d treat your children, that’s still not carte blanc to be rude. Perhaps one ought to aim for “respectful” with the realization it may get nasty if when they have to stand up for themself…

 

[TheLittleLady]

It depends on if you are a minor/dependant of your parents or if you are an emancipated adult.