of course we must evangelize in truth. that’s why I’m asking if men are the Bride of Christ in the same way women are. if not, then it wouldn’t be evangelizing in truth, but if they are, this could be a great way to reach them. and we should be trying to reach all unbelievers. the Early Church often used different strategies such as story telling, use of secular writings, and philosophy to intrigue and persuade their audience. it isn’t wrong to take new approaches in new times and to new audiences, in fact, I’d say it’s a good thing to do so.
I’m actually saying quite the opposite: that viewing Christ as their future spouse will ease their pain of celibacy. the alternative seems to be they simply “have to accept celibacy” since that’s what the Church teaches and so it is so. that’s much harsher.
yes God does call some to married life, and yet Paul still calls it a
gift to be single, and wishes that more would be single, and that
all capable of it, should remain single. we often forget the treasure of celibacy, and homosexuals are literally required to be celibate, so why not use that as a way to encourage them? rather, we almost treat it as a punishment for how they happen to exist.
“disordered” it isn’t like the world’s definition of a “disorder” and homosexuality, as you say, can be used to grow closer to God, especially since practicing gay Catholics are basically required to remain celibate, which Paul teaches is a great gift. you said earlier that “celibacy should not be viewed as something that must be painfully endured” and yet now say you can’t imagine the suffering they must go through and that they should offer that suffering to God. why not instead try to help ease their suffering? we shouldn’t want our own members to suffer, for when one part of the Body suffers, all the Body suffers.
I’m really not trying to warp any truth, and I hope I’m not coming off too strong, I hope I’m emphasizing well enough that we absolutely must continue to teach what the Church has always taught about homosexuality, but I do think, where it’s possible, we need to have as soft a tone as possible, because gays have been absolutely crushed by the Church in the past, and especially with the sex abuse scandal and some of the Traditionalists reactions to it. without compromising what the Church teaches, I think we need to take as gentle an approach as possible, and I think this could really help them in their struggle to remain celibate, if they view their life as the engagement period to Christ, and the wedding as being in Heaven. the engagement period is one where the two become much closer and they anticipate excitedly becoming one.
thanks for your feedback and detailed response!