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Montanaman you sound like a real man, someone who is all too aware of his responsibilities and is doing everything possible to provide for his family.
I too am married to a workaholic. God blessed him with a new job this year where he is NOT ALLOWED to work weekends and so we finally are all getting to have a lot of family time together 9 years after our first child was born (we have 3).
What came to mind when I read your post is DO YOU HAVE A SABBATH? It is a commandment from God and of the church that we take a full day off each week from all work. You must take that time if you call yourself a Catholic and a Christian. Without knowing exactly what line of work you are in I don’t want to appear naive or judgmental but for you and your families well-being spiritually, mentally, emotionally and especially health wise you must take time off EVERY WEEK. You cannot make more money or work harder when you are exhausted. Coming home and zoning out as a drooling mess means total exhaustion. When you work this much your wife is also working this much too and is never getting any time off either, in fact she is living as a single mother virtually. I’m sure she could join you drooling on the couch!
“A change is a good as a rest”. If you are both with your heads down working, working, working every day with no variety of any kind you cannot survive like that. I believe if you trust God and step out in faith and really start to take a true Sabbath every week you will not see it affect you financially. Is there ANYONE (maybe at your parish) who could take the kids for a few hours on a Sunday so you and your wife could have some time alone together, these kind of simple things will renew you and keep your marriage strong.
You both sound totally stressed out and exhausted, this is a signal for change. You sound like a great guy, especially because you chose this forum to vent! Good for you, take it as a sign from God that you came here. We care about you and your situation. I will pray for you and your family tonight. God bless you, you don’t have to do it all, Jesus wants to take your heavy burden and make it light.
I too am married to a workaholic. God blessed him with a new job this year where he is NOT ALLOWED to work weekends and so we finally are all getting to have a lot of family time together 9 years after our first child was born (we have 3).
What came to mind when I read your post is DO YOU HAVE A SABBATH? It is a commandment from God and of the church that we take a full day off each week from all work. You must take that time if you call yourself a Catholic and a Christian. Without knowing exactly what line of work you are in I don’t want to appear naive or judgmental but for you and your families well-being spiritually, mentally, emotionally and especially health wise you must take time off EVERY WEEK. You cannot make more money or work harder when you are exhausted. Coming home and zoning out as a drooling mess means total exhaustion. When you work this much your wife is also working this much too and is never getting any time off either, in fact she is living as a single mother virtually. I’m sure she could join you drooling on the couch!
“A change is a good as a rest”. If you are both with your heads down working, working, working every day with no variety of any kind you cannot survive like that. I believe if you trust God and step out in faith and really start to take a true Sabbath every week you will not see it affect you financially. Is there ANYONE (maybe at your parish) who could take the kids for a few hours on a Sunday so you and your wife could have some time alone together, these kind of simple things will renew you and keep your marriage strong.
You both sound totally stressed out and exhausted, this is a signal for change. You sound like a great guy, especially because you chose this forum to vent! Good for you, take it as a sign from God that you came here. We care about you and your situation. I will pray for you and your family tonight. God bless you, you don’t have to do it all, Jesus wants to take your heavy burden and make it light.
