The argument isn’t that by killing a fetus you’re killing an adult. By stepping on an sapling you don’t kill a 500 year old tree. But by killing a sapling you do kill an oak tree. By aborting a fetus you do kill a human being. The stage of development doesn’t change that. The question then in metaphysics is what is a human being, and what is a tree, and what is good for each according to its nature?
Killing a 500 or 10,000 year old tree, for one, shouldn’t be equated to killing a person. It has intrinsic value natural to it, and cultural value given to it by rational beings. The “horror” at cutting down such a tree, or breaking a vase, or whatever, isn’t about its intrinsic value – it’s only a tree. It’s about the cultural value given to it by rational minds.
That is different in all respects to the value intrinsic to it. We are looking at the intrinsic value of a human life. This is separate from whatever value culture places on it. If a culture deems it acceptable to commit genocide of adults, that doesn’t change the intrinsic value inalienable to those persons. Or reverse, if it wishes to revere Pharaoh as a god, that doesn’t change the fact that he’s only a human.
Now, if you want to debate the intrinsic value of a human life at different stages in development, and whether and/or how that changes, and the nature of souls (insofar as they are the form of a thing), whether that exists, the immateriality of the intellect, and what that means for our souls, that’s one thing. But I find your comparison to a five hundred year old oak tree absurd, and it’s a terrible misunderstanding of Aristotlean metaphysics.
I’m not aware of Aristotle or Thomas Aquinas ever writing about intrinsic or cultural value specifically, but it certainly is readily apparent.