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hello, so sorry if this topic upsets anyone. i had a miscarraige 2 weeks ago at 8 weeks pregnant. i am devastated. i have no one to tell, i feel this is my fault because i was so stressed out before the miscarraige and this is the reason i lost the baby. i feel in such limbo as i cant have a baptism or furneral for my baby. i dont know what to do, can anyone give me any advice on what they have done in these circumstances. thanks and God bless.
 
please talk to your priest for the spiritual counsel and blessing you need, yes the church can help you

talk to your doctor about coping with the physical and psychological effects, and yes they are as real as if you had lost a baby at any stage. It is highly unlikely anything you did or did not do caused this, so you need to hear this from a doctor.

do know many of us empathize deeply out of our own experience and join you in prayer.
 
thank you for replying so quickly, i am crying as i type this, i feel i have failed this baby so much. is it normal to have a mass said for a miscarried baby?
 
I don’t think you specifically caused this. I have had a couple of miscarriages myself years ago, and it was not something I did - some physiological process did not happen to no fault of my own - not diet, lack of exercise, or stress.
Be assured of my prayers for you.
 
Hail Holy Queen, Mother of mercy, our life, our sweetness and our hope! To Thee do we cry poor banished children of Eve, to Thee do we send up our sighs mourning and weeping in this valley of tears. Turn then O most gracious Advocate Your eyes of mercy towards us and after this our exile, show unto us the blessed fruit of Thy womb, Jesus. O clement O loving O most sweet Virgin Mary.
Pray for us O holy Mother of God. That we may be made worthy of the promises of Christ.
 
I miscarried my very first pregnancy. It’s a huge loss! Don’t feel bad for wanting (and needing) to grieve. I agree with another poster who suggested talking to a priest about baptism and such. As far as a Mass being said, when is a Mass ever not useful or a waste?? Never! I think that’s a great idea, especially if it helps you to cope. Just know that others like you and me have been there! You’re not alone, though it can feel very lonely.
My miscarriage was at week 5. I was devastated! I wanted a baby so badly!! I even figured out my due date, which would have been March 16, 2006. BUT, on that day, the day I would have been due to have my baby that I lost, I found out I was pregnant with my son! So, had I carried that first baby to term, I wouldn’t have my sweet, soon-to-be 5 year old boy pretending to ride a motorcycle beside me while I type! Not that i dont still think of that baby i lost. It’s just that now, looking back, i can see God’s brilliant plan in place! I’m also so very grateful that i have a child in Heaven who can pray for me and my family! What a blessing! I hope that my story gives you some hope and doesn’t come off sounding insensitive in ANY way! I know the pains of losing a baby all too well and if I could hug you, I would! So here… {{{{HUGS!!!}}} You’re in my prayers!!
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women and
blessed is the Fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners
now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
paula20 said:
hello, so sorry if this topic upsets anyone. i had a miscarraige 2 weeks ago at 8 weeks pregnant. i am devastated. i have no one to tell, i feel this is my fault because i was so stressed out before the miscarraige and this is the reason i lost the baby. i feel in such limbo as i cant have a baptism or furneral for my baby. i dont know what to do, can anyone give me any advice on what they have done in these circumstances. thanks and God bless.
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Hello Paula,
I had a miscarriage when I was 8 weeks pregnant. I was told at the time that 1 in 5 pregnancies end in miscarriage by the hospital staff. We entrust our loved ones to the mercy of the Lord. Please leave it in the hands of the Lord and go speak with your priest.

I am praying for you …
 
thank you all so much for your kind replys, your words have touched me so much. i spoke with my priest and he said he would offer a mass for my baby but today when i talked with him again he said he wont be doing it but praying privately instead. i am so upset i really would have liked a mass said for my baby and dont know what i have done to change his mind. i thought maybe it wasnt what other people did in this situation and this is why i was wondering was having a mass said the normal thing to do.
 
thank you all so much for your replys, they have touched me deeply.
 
Paula,

I’m so sorry for your loss. Chances are, you did nothing to cause the miscarriage. Nothing. Stress is not going to cause a miscarriage in a healthy pregnancy.

I don’t know what to say; I know this is painful. Please know you have the right to grieve.

I send you hugs and prayers, dear sister.

:hug1:
 
Hi
I had a miscarriage a year ago and felt the same feelings and emotions you are going through- please know it is nothing that you did or could have done to cause or prevent this. It is God’s will and ultimately part of a larger plan for us as difficult as it is to understand. I don’t think it is at all unheard of to have a baptism or mass for your unborn child and I pray that you are able to find peace in the coming days and months ahead. Please don’t lose hope, even as I had one a year ago I now have been blessed with a baby girl that is almost 3 months old. Praying for you
 
Praying for your intentions….

Lord Jesus, You have said, “Learn from me, for I am meek and humble of heart.” With confidence in Your loving heart which offers rest to weary souls, we come to You in this time of special need. In Your unfailing love, read the prayer that is written on our hearts, and grant the grace that we ask of You, in accordance with Your holy will. In Your name we pray. Amen.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, and sought thy intercession, was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother, to thee I come, before thee I stand sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate! Despise not my petitions, but, in thy mercy, hear and answer me. Amen.
 
Our Father, Who art in heaven,
Hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come.
Thy Will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.

Amen.

Glory be to the Father,
and to the Son,
and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning,
is now,
and ever shall be,
world without end.

Amen.
 
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