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hello, i apologize if there was something posted by me a minute ago…i accidentally hit a wrong button. but i have some questions regarding missing mass…

i tend to miss mass pretty often because of work. I work in a restaurant where my hours are pretty much set and i dont really have a say as to what time i can leave. saturday nights are a good 1/3rd of my weekly paycheck, and i cant afford to give up any shifts because i’m already barely making enough to live. the problem with working saturday nights is sometimes i dont get out of work till 2am sometimes later depending on if we have any bus groups (i live around a high tourist area). by the time i get home (30min away, and eat- we dont get breaks) its 3am or so, and to be at mass id get 3 hours of sleep. my problem is that after working almost 12 hour shifts i cant wake up after 3 hours, no matter how many alarms i set. the only reason why i usually am not late for work sunday morning if i dont attend mass is because my mom gets up at 10:30 and usually comes screaming into my room that i’ll be late for work. if i didnt work sunday day shift after mass i dont think id have any problems attending because i could go to the last scheduled mass, but at the moment i cant afford to give up my sunday day. In another 2 weeks a person will be leaving and i’ll be able to pick up his sunday night shift, my manager already approved the switch.

so in the meantime, if i would somehow manage to wake up in time tomorrow for mass, would i be able to receive communion? i know if i was just skipping mass because i was hungover (which i dont drink) or because i felt like going out and shopping (which im too broke) or something it would be different…wouldnt it? last weekend i did miss because i was sick…(i had a stomach bug and called off work the entire weekend since i was throwing up non stop), so its been a good 3 weeks since i’ve been at mass so i was just wondering.

thanks you
 
ashnicole said:
hello, i apologize if there was something posted by me a minute ago…i accidentally hit a wrong button. but i have some questions regarding missing mass…

i tend to miss mass pretty often because of work. I work in a restaurant where my hours are pretty much set and i dont really have a say as to what time i can leave. saturday nights are a good 1/3rd of my weekly paycheck, and i cant afford to give up any shifts because i’m already barely making enough to live. the problem with working saturday nights is sometimes i dont get out of work till 2am sometimes later depending on if we have any bus groups (i live around a high tourist area). by the time i get home (30min away, and eat- we dont get breaks) its 3am or so, and to be at mass id get 3 hours of sleep. my problem is that after working almost 12 hour shifts i cant wake up after 3 hours, no matter how many alarms i set. the only reason why i usually am not late for work sunday morning if i dont attend mass is because my mom gets up at 10:30 and usually comes screaming into my room that i’ll be late for work. if i didnt work sunday day shift after mass i dont think id have any problems attending because i could go to the last scheduled mass, but at the moment i cant afford to give up my sunday day. In another 2 weeks a person will be leaving and i’ll be able to pick up his sunday night shift, my manager already approved the switch.

so in the meantime, if i would somehow manage to wake up in time tomorrow for mass, would i be able to receive communion? i know if i was just skipping mass because i was hungover (which i dont drink) or because i felt like going out and shopping (which im too broke) or something it would be different…wouldnt it? last weekend i did miss because i was sick…(i had a stomach bug and called off work the entire weekend since i was throwing up non stop), so its been a good 3 weeks since i’ve been at mass so i was just wondering.

thanks you
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Its not clear what you are really saying.
Are you single and live at home with your parents?
If that were the case you could not justify missing Mass because you wanted to earn more money, in my opinion.
 
maybe her family needs her paycheck to help out.Ive experienced this persons lifestyle and I can assure you no one I know would rather go work shifts in a restaurant on weekends if they didn,t have to .I would prefer going to Mass anytime.We don,t all have the joy of nine to five hours and weekends off thats a myth for most people
 
The best person to talk with would be your parish priest. He can ask the questions needed to clarify the situation, advise you, and give you a dispensation if needed. If confession is needed he can help with that as well.
 
Being a semi-retired nurse, I know what it’s like to miss Mass on account of work, esp. when you have to do long shifts on the weekends. Hang in there until you can switch your hours around – we all know how ridiculous the idea of “get a different job” is in this economy, when so many are lucky to even have a job! Since there isn’t another Mass nearby that meets your schedule, you might want to talk with your parish priest and see about getting a dispensation or something. And even though it’s not a substitute for Sunday Mass attendance, it would be good to try to attend daily Mass once a week (or more) if possible, and/or spend some time before the Blessed Sacrament, to “tide you over” until you can return to regular Sunday Mass attendance.

My general rule about missing Mass: if I have a situation (mild illness/need of sleep/etc.) that is severe enough that I would stay home from a social event that I really wanted to attend, it’s severe enough to justify staying home from Mass. So if I had worked late the night before and had to go back to work that afternoon, no way would I get up after only 3 hours of sleep and go out to breakfast with my friends…so in this case, I would consider it OK to stay home from Mass and get the rest my body needs. That’s how I dealt with 14 years of working 12-hour shifts on the weekends (thankfully not every weekend).
 
The best advice is to speak with your parish priest ASAP. He can give you a dipsensation from Sunday mass. And he can also give you absolution in the sacrament of confession – which is ALWAYS a good thing 👍

Hang in there, dear one!

Gertie
 
Any chance you can find a local parish that has a Sunday evening mass? This might fit in your schedule until you start the Sunday evening shift. good luck
 
I don’t get off work on some Sunday mornings until 5a.m…and I have to be back at work Sunday at 5p.m…so I go home, sleep a few hours and then have to make it to mass at 9:30a.m. Sunday…

I was wondering this…we have a Mass said in the language Spanish at 12p.m…I don’t speak Spanish however…what is the validity of attending Mass if I go to a Spanish one just because I would get to sleep longer?

thanks…
 
dnar said:
I don’t get off work on some Sunday mornings until 5a.m…and I have to be back at work Sunday at 5p.m…so I go home, sleep a few hours and then have to make it to mass at 9:30a.m. Sunday…

I was wondering this…we have a Mass said in the language Spanish at 12p.m…I don’t speak Spanish however…what is the validity of attending Mass if I go to a Spanish one just because I would get to sleep longer?

thanks…
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It is absolutely valid. If it were the only Mass I could attend, I would buy a missal in English so I could read along with the order of the Mass, all the readings, prayers, etc. You don’t have to respond in Spanish where the faithful are supposed to respond. I sometimes attend the Spanish language Mass at my parish (I do speak Spanish, but as a second language), and I generally say the responses in Spanish, but I say the Our Father and the Creed in English. No one bats an eye.
 
Speak to your priest. But going to Mass in Spanish is perfectly alright. You’ll know what’s going on even of you don’t understand every word. You can read the English misselette in the pew or bring your own missal.
 
dnar said:
I was wondering this…we have a Mass said in the language Spanish at 12p.m…I don’t speak Spanish however…what is the validity of attending Mass if I go to a Spanish one just because I would get to sleep longer?

thanks…
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I don’t think it’s so much about sleeping longer as sleeping at all - 3 hours hardly counts as sleep! As for validity, the mass is the mass is the mass no matter what language it’s in. I regularly attended mass while travelling and, while I obviously preferred mass in English, sometimes this wasn’t an option. So I’ve been to mass in French, Italian, Spanish and even Albanian! Whatever the language, the meaning remains the same.
 
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