Modesty in the Home

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Just a quick question on modesty in the house. I’m a mother of two boys (5 and 7). In the morning they are often still just in their underwear, and often walk naked to and from the shower. Is this appropriate? They don’t have any sisters, and I’m personally not uncomfortable with it, but how old is too old for this? They’re still young, but I want them to grow up with a sense of modesty
 
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Why would it need explanation? They’re growing and it’s time to teach them modesty. It’s better to teach them young than after an awkward moment later on.
 
Almost my entire family is in underwear all day now due to quatentine we are a big family and people are in various stages of clothing at any point. No biggie. They will know when it’s time.
 
By telling him that you wouldn’t walk around without clothes in front of them, and you think it’s time they stopped doing so, so they learn about what is proper behavior. They should be taught not to walk around that way in front of their friends as well.
 
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… They’re still young, but I want them to grow up with a sense of modesty
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When I was raised we all wore clothing at home, which could be pyjamas at times, from the time I can remember, out of diapers.
 
I don’t think modesty is an issue here. Not at 5 and 7 without sisters. I’d say by 8 -9 they can be encouraged to put something on. By 10, they won’t want to run around in their underwear anymore. I think it’s a non issue. Doing something at that early age could even give them a sense that there is something shameful about their bodies.
 
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I don’t think if explained correctly it would make them feel shameful.
 
Ive posted a similar response here before.
Up to about age 9 it was next to impossible to keep pants on me. I was the “free spirit”. My mom would tell me I had to keep my pants on anyway. “I was captain underpants”
Result, I took them off. When I ran through the living room, dad not even phased, said, “Honey, Tarzan’s loose again”.
You can hint at it, make it a bit funny to get the topic started.
It won’t be long and they’ll probably decide on their own.
Dominus vobiscum
 
This answer may not be very popular on this forum, but personally I find it a bit weird talking about modesty for children this young. At that age they don’t have a sense of shame about nakedness; there is nothing sexual about their bodies. It’s also a bit weird mentioning that they don’t have sisters. So what if they did? Unless something has gone seriously wrong in a family, children (and adults) do not think about their siblings in a sexual way.

More practically, as others have said, children work these things out for themselves. At some time before the beginning of puberty, children decide that they aren’t comfortable being naked in front of other people. They get to a point where they don’t even want to be naked in front of other people of the same sex to whom they are not related, let alone people of the opposite sex and/or their family.
 
I thought your kids were grown and sex is way up in your house due to the pandemic 😮
 
Kids aren’t grown I said we homeschool, and yes I’m pleased with the situation as it stands
 
Wouldn’t worry too much about the 5 year old yet. Maybe time to get the 7 year old to start thinking about modesty though.
 
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Almost my entire family is in underwear all day now due to quatentine we are a big family and people are in various stages of clothing at any point. No biggie. They will know when it’s time.
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Agreed, No biggie.

When my 8 year old gets out of the shower or bath, the first thing he does is go stand by the fireplace with the fan running. It’s no big deal.
 
I think mostly these things naturally work out. There is a difference between modesty and privacy. We have a big family. 7 kids. We are all in the same house 24 7 especially now that we are in quarantine. We also dress modest. Do we run around like a nudist colony? No. Do I, as dad, occasionally bbq in a pair of boxers and a t shirt? Yup. And it’s delicious.
 
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I agree whole heartedly. My teens just naturally gravitate to privacy.
 
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