Moral Dilemma Involving College Acceptance

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I have a classmate that is literally the most morally repulsive person I have ever known. Sometimes I wonder if he even has a conscience. It puts me in difficult situations when it comes to the sin of “wishing evil upon someone else.” I have never deliberately said “God, please let something bad happen to that person.” or anything like that, but if I see something bad happen to this person (nothing serious like injury), but if he gets kicked out of class for example, I can’t help but take pleasure in that. I’m not really sure if I am making a decision to do so. I am trying to wish him well, and I do pray for him. Is there any sin in that?

I have come to this situation. This kid recently got accepted to the college of his choice, a place where a few other classmates of mine, who were much more deserving, did not get accepted. I am sure this kid did all he could to try and cover up the best he could the numerous suspensions and times he was caught lying and cheating so that his college application is not tarnished. Upon looking at this college’s application online, I saw that they do not even ask if these kind of things happened. My point is that I don’t think the college knows what kind of person he is. It just bothers me that he gets into that college, and I see other decent human beings with equal or better grades who did not. I have also heard it rumored that this kid got in to the school in the agreement to join their ROTC program, which he intends to immediately drop out of. His parents are also fairly influential, so I would not doubt that that helped too.

My question is should I write a letter to the college? On one side, it feels kind of wrong to sabotage his college acceptance. On the other side, I know that this college does not fully understand what this kid is like. But, I’m sure the don’t fully understand what anyone is really like through just an application.
 
PeteZaHut said:
I have a classmate that is literally the most morally repulsive person I have ever known. Sometimes I wonder if he even has a conscience. It puts me in difficult situations when it comes to the sin of “wishing evil upon someone else.” I have never deliberately said “God, please let something bad happen to that person.” or anything like that, but if I see something bad happen to this person (nothing serious like injury), but if he gets kicked out of class for example, I can’t help but take pleasure in that. I’m not really sure if I am making a decision to do so. I am trying to wish him well, and I do pray for him. Is there any sin in that?

I have come to this situation. This kid recently got accepted to the college of his choice, a place where a few other classmates of mine, who were much more deserving, did not get accepted. I am sure this kid did all he could to try and cover up the best he could the numerous suspensions and times he was caught lying and cheating so that his college application is not tarnished. Upon looking at this college’s application online, I saw that they do not even ask if these kind of things happened. My point is that I don’t think the college knows what kind of person he is. It just bothers me that he gets into that college, and I see other decent human beings with equal or better grades who did not. I have also heard it rumored that this kid got in to the school in the agreement to join their ROTC program, which he intends to immediately drop out of. His parents are also fairly influential, so I would not doubt that that helped too.

My question is should I write a letter to the college? On one side, it feels kind of wrong to sabotage his college acceptance. On the other side, I know that this college does not fully understand what this kid is like. But, I’m sure the don’t fully understand what anyone is really like through just an application.
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Most teachers and school administrators have dealt with many students who cheat and lie and know how to find them and deal with them. I don’t think it would be necessary to tell them something they can find out for themselves (and it could be the sin of detraction as well).
 
No, you should not write to the college.

Move on with your life, and do not dwell on this other person.
 
would you think it wold be right if someone wrote a letter describing the bad things you have done in your life?
 
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I have also heard it rumored that this kid got in to the school in the agreement to join their ROTC program, which he intends to immediately drop out of.
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…Can you even do that?
I thought there was some sort of commitment made for at least a few years, or something.

But from all accounts, it sounds as if this person is either going to be forced to shape up (in which case your prayers may have worked), or else start taking some serious consequences (because I really don’t think he would be able to get away with the sort of things you seem to be describing). So no, you definitely don’t have to do anything.

Just keep praying for him, and never stop praying for him. 🙂
You might be the one person that God uses to get his soul into Purgatory. :gopray:
 
I agree with all the other posters here.

I would like to add that his sins will find him out eventually. Remember that he will one day have to give an account of himself to Christ. The Lord says vengence is mine. So let it go and let God.👍

Like everyone else said pray pray pray and then pray some more:thumbsup:
 
PeteZaHut said:
I have a classmate that is literally the most morally repulsive person I have ever known. Sometimes I wonder if he even has a conscience. It puts me in difficult situations when it comes to the sin of “wishing evil upon someone else.” I have never deliberately said “God, please let something bad happen to that person.” or anything like that, but if I see something bad happen to this person (nothing serious like injury), but if he gets kicked out of class for example, I can’t help but take pleasure in that. I’m not really sure if I am making a decision to do so. I am trying to wish him well, and I do pray for him. Is there any sin in that?

I have come to this situation. This kid recently got accepted to the college of his choice, a place where a few other classmates of mine, who were much more deserving, did not get accepted. I am sure this kid did all he could to try and cover up the best he could the numerous suspensions and times he was caught lying and cheating so that his college application is not tarnished. Upon looking at this college’s application online, I saw that they do not even ask if these kind of things happened. My point is that I don’t think the college knows what kind of person he is. It just bothers me that he gets into that college, and I see other decent human beings with equal or better grades who did not. I have also heard it rumored that this kid got in to the school in the agreement to join their ROTC program, which he intends to immediately drop out of. His parents are also fairly influential, so I would not doubt that that helped too.

My question is should I write a letter to the college? On one side, it feels kind of wrong to sabotage his college acceptance. On the other side, I know that this college does not fully understand what this kid is like. But, I’m sure the don’t fully understand what anyone is really like through just an application.
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No-do not write the college. Your revulsion towards this person hurts nobody but yourslef. lt it go. or as they say in AA"-Let go , Let God"
 
wjp984 said:
would you think it wold be right if someone wrote a letter describing the bad things you have done in your life?
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Depends, if there was a deranged psychopath on the loose, I’d hardly take your line of thought.
 
I think it depends on what this person has actually done in school. Now do realize some people are born mischievous and he may have done a few things here and there to you that may have seemed questionable, but normal to others.

If there is a danger to other people, then it should be reported, but for the sake of others. No point reporting pranksters though,
 
No, don’t do anything. The kid will prove or disprove himself once he is there. You never know what this person will be like in college, though. Two of my brother-in-laws sound like this person. Real trouble makers and hanging with the wrong crowd. Into drugs and drinking as teens. Promiscuous. Suspended and even spending nights in Juvy hall.

They both went to college and excelled! They were 180 degrees different in college than they were in high school. I think some of it was because they were bored in high school and some was because they were in with the wrong crowd. However, once in college, they could take classes that interested and challenged them, got away from the “bad crowd” and they turned out to be quite admirable people!
 
Id say try restrain yourself from casting the first stone!

and I wouldnt pray for the college to realize that he is a jerk, Id pray that he stops being one!

some great replies on this thread by the way, v. christian outlook which is quite difficult to maintain!
 
masterjedi747 said:
…Can you even do that?
I thought there was some sort of commitment made for at least a few years, or something.
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Yes, you can join ROTC in college without incurring any military service obligations until the third year (unless you are an ROTC scholarship recipient).
 
Sometimes in our disgust for other human beings we can fail to see any positives. This is not a good thing to dwell on… disgust, jealousy (of his admittance), hatred… none of these are holy aspirations.
God alone knows our hearts… don’t judge your brother, lest you be judged.
Maybe this university is where God is calling this person to a better and holier life…
Wish him peace… and move on.
 
PeteZaHut said:
My question is should I write a letter to the college? On one side, it feels kind of wrong to sabotage his college acceptance. On the other side, I know that this college does not fully understand what this kid is like. But, I’m sure the don’t fully understand what anyone is really like through just an application.
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If the college doesn’t inquire about ethics code violations, then it probably doesn’t care too much about them. And, if it doesn’t, don’t be surprised that it’s unjust in its acceptance of students. Most things aren’t very just when you get down to it. The problem is the college’s process, not the student’s. (Although he seems to have his own problems.)

He’s their problem now, not yours.
 
Can someone actually go read college applications online? Not exactly the kind of school I’d be anxious to attend.

From what I see, prestigious schools require a lenghty application process, copies of high school records, letters of reccomend and references.

I’d concentrate on my own studies and let this go.
 
PeteZaHut said:
I have a classmate that is literally the most morally repulsive person I have ever known. Sometimes I wonder if he even has a conscience. It puts me in difficult situations when it comes to the sin of “wishing evil upon someone else.” I have never deliberately said “God, please let something bad happen to that person.” or anything like that, but if I see something bad happen to this person (nothing serious like injury), but if he gets kicked out of class for example, I can’t help but take pleasure in that. I’m not really sure if I am making a decision to do so. I am trying to wish him well, and I do pray for him. Is there any sin in that?

I have come to this situation. This kid recently got accepted to the college of his choice, a place where a few other classmates of mine, who were much more deserving, did not get accepted. I am sure this kid did all he could to try and cover up the best he could the numerous suspensions and times he was caught lying and cheating so that his college application is not tarnished. Upon looking at this college’s application online, I saw that they do not even ask if these kind of things happened. My point is that I don’t think the college knows what kind of person he is. It just bothers me that he gets into that college, and I see other decent human beings with equal or better grades who did not. I have also heard it rumored that this kid got in to the school in the agreement to join their ROTC program, which he intends to immediately drop out of. His parents are also fairly influential, so I would not doubt that that helped too.

My question is should I write a letter to the college? On one side, it feels kind of wrong to sabotage his college acceptance. On the other side, I know that this college does not fully understand what this kid is like. But, I’m sure the don’t fully understand what anyone is really like through just an application.
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Let him go to college, if he faked his application, he will not hold up in college. There is a weeding out process at all colleges during the Freshman year.
 
There were some repulsive people I knew in middle school and high school…some that have said some pretty mean things to me. It makes me happy to know that they totally turned around for the better. Just hope and pray that college will, I don’t know, humble this person. If he is as terrible as you say he is he may not last very long there. But maybe it’ll change him…who knows.
 
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