Morality and help on chasity

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I have a mastrubation problem and not one day goes by that I do not ask for forgivness and try to resist it. I have been falling into it and need help. Also, could someone tell me if it is a mortal sin or not so I know if I can take the Body of Christ? Someone please help.
 
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Dragoonfox:
I have a mastrubation problem and not one day goes by that I do not ask for forgivness and try to resist it. I have been falling into it and need help. Also, could someone tell me if it is a mortal sin or not so I know if I can take the Body of Christ? Someone please help.
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It is definately a mortal sin, and you should not receive communion in a state of mortal sin for [that] would be a sacriledge.

Pray for strength to overcome this inordinate desire.
 
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Dragoonfox:
I have a mastrubation problem and not one day goes by that I do not ask for forgivness and try to resist it. I have been falling into it and need help. Also, could someone tell me if it is a mortal sin or not so I know if I can take the Body of Christ? Someone please help.
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Congratulations for coming to the site and posting this, friend. I know that it is difficult, even though this is an anonymous site.

If you have a masturbation “problem” – an out-of-control habit – you are probably committing the sin NOT when you actually masturbate, but rather when you “juice-up” your psyche beforehand with sexual looking.

The point of control over the habit is RIGHT THERE – WHEN YOU ENGAGE IN SEXUAL LOOKING BEFORE THE SEX ACT.

Because that is the point of control, that is also WHEN YOU ACTUALLY COMMIT THE SIN OF MASTURBATION – WHEN YOU ENGAGE IN SEXUAL LOOKING.

So, self-control is easy:

Stop looking.

If you terminate all sexual looking, you’ll quickly discover that you are starving your psyche of the cerebral material it needs to engage in masturbatory fantasizing. You’ll probably masturbate once or twice after you stop all looking but after that your self control will begin to return.

If you have trouble not looking, imagine yourself dying, going to your special and general judgments, where first privately, and then publicly, you are asked by God, “Tell me, Dragoonfox, what did YOU do, like these other people, to make My world a better place??? Tell us all – What did YOU do to improve it???”

Imagine your embarrassment as they play back 1,000 pictures of you masturbating.

They have 4,000 pictures of me masturbating, so don’t feel too bad, my friend.

Just *don’t look! Stop the looking! *and your problem will fade away, and you’ll be the dignified, un-dog-like human spiritual BUILDER God envisions!
 
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Dragoonfox:
I have a mastrubation problem and not one day goes by that I do not ask for forgivness and try to resist it. I have been falling into it and need help. Also, could someone tell me if it is a mortal sin or not so I know if I can take the Body of Christ? Someone please help.
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First, a just God would not condemn you for something over which you have no control. The issue is not simply what you do, but what you choose to do. Also remember that God described David, who had committed adultery and murder, as “a man after my own heart” (Acts 13:22). In fact, the Bible is full of sinners who do God’s work.

From the Catechism:

1857 For a sin to be mortal, three conditions must together be met: “Mortal sin is sin whose object is grave matter and which is also committed with full knowledge and deliberate consent.”

1858 Grave matter is specified by the Ten Commandments… One must also take into account who is wronged: violence against parents is in itself graver than violence against a stranger.

1859 Mortal sin requires full knowledge and complete consent…

1860 Unintentional ignorance can diminish or even remove the imputability of a grave offense…

2352 By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. “Both the Magisterium of the Church, in the course of a constant tradition, and the moral sense of the faithful have been in no doubt and have firmly maintained that masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action.” “The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to its purpose.” For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of “the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved.”

To form an equitable judgment about the subjects’ moral responsibility and to guide pastoral action, one must take into account the affective immaturity, force of acquired habit, conditions of anxiety or other psychological or social factors that lessen, if not even reduce to a minimum, moral culpability.

Thus, masturbation is sometimes a mortal sin. It is a response to desire, some of which is hormonal, some of which is habitual, and some of which is voluntary. The voluntary part is the most important one for determining whether or not something is Wrong.

However embarrassing it may be, you ought to talk to a priest about this. That is, after all, what they are for.
 
It may be a mortal sin, but we can not say this is definitely the case. I note from your profile that you are only 16, so I think it possible that immaturity and habit may be sufficient to reduce your personal culpability. That said, I would not advise you to presume that this is not a mortal sin. Go to confession before receiving Holy Communion.

Please understand that when I used the word immaturity just now that I was not calling you names, but I was reminding you that you are still growing up physically, mentally and emotionally. This difficulty you are currently experiencing is no doubt in part due to changes in yourself that you have not yet completely learned to deal with. Keep trying, it will get easier.

Borrow a page from Alcoholics Anonymous and try to break this habit one day at a time. If necessary, go for one hour at a time or one minute at a time. Substitute this habit with a new habit. I think I once read that St Jerome memorized Hebrew words as a way to combat lustful thoughts that were bothering him. He eventually developed a great enough fluency to translate the Old Testament from Hebrew to Latin!

I’ll pray for you.
 
Masturbation and pornography are both grave matter. To be a mortal sin the action must be grave matter, the individual must have full knowledge or firm belief that it is grave matter and fully consent.

You should not receive the Eucharist in a state of mortal sin. In fact it is grave matter to do so.

My advise is to get to the sacrament of Reconciliation as soon as possible. Please don’t let embarrasment stop you. You must confess all mortal sins by kind and (approximate) number for your confession to be valid. Also, there must be contrition for sins and a firm purpose of amandment not to sin anymore. Once you make a worthy confession and receive absolution not only are your sins forgiven but you will be given the grace to resist temptation.

If you haven’t been confessing mortal sins or have been covering them up (for example confessing impure thoughts instead of confessing masturbation) then you might want to receive a general confession. Tell the priest that you have made several bad confessions in the past and would like to confess all the mortal sins (by kind and number) since your last good confession.

Again, please don’t let embarrasment keep you from the confessional. Go to another parish if you have to. Just make a worthy confession with the firm purpose of amandment so that you can receive forgiveness and the strength to resist the tempation in the future.

Examination of conscience:
catholic.org/frz/examen/examen.htm
 
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Dragoonfox:
I have a mastrubation problem and not one day goes by that I do not ask for forgivness and try to resist it. I have been falling into it and need help. Also, could someone tell me if it is a mortal sin or not so I know if I can take the Body of Christ? Someone please help.
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Concerning masturbation, the Cathechism states
“…To form an equitable judgment about the subjects moral responsiblity and to guide pastoral action, one must take into account the affective immaturity, force of aquired habit, conditions of anxiety, or other psychological or social factors that can lessen, if not even reduce to a minimum, moral culpability” (Catechism of the Catholic Church).
This means that masturbation is not always a mortal sin. To determine whether or not it is in your case, you need to talk to a good, orthodox, and Christ like priest in confession or spiritual direction. If it is not a mortal sin in your case, the priest, if he follows the teachings of the Church, will advise you to recieve holy commuinion even if you masturbate so that the grace of the sacrament will help you overcome the sin. Those who tell you that masturbation is always a mortal sin do not understand the teachings of the Church. Listen rather to a good confessor, possibly your parish priest.
Love in Christ,
Topher
 
Please refer to the sticky at the top of the list of threads on this forum - it’s a list of sites for help battling impurity.

Betsy
 
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